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Dr. Tracey Marks: People Who Drain You vs. People Who Energize You
Why do some people calm your brain while others drain it? One of our favorite psychiatrists, Dr. Tracey Marks, explains how your nervous system regulates with safe peopleâplus a simple body check.
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What âFind 100 Waysâ Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a womanâs re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just âthe children are gone now.â
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
âThe function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.â Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a âwronged wife.â
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who believed disagreement was disobedience. She was a woman living under laws that trea [...]
Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctorâs Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to someone who may or may not listen.
Some patients walk into the doctorâs offic [...]

Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of âGoGo.â
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow, both are rooted in survival.
Many of us Black Americans kno [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodleyâs mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
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"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It ain't his turn."Â
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Please, do not ever let anyone convince you of false th [...]

Ketty Lester: Honor the Firsts, Remember the Closed Doors
Ketty Lester deserves more than a passing mention. She deserves the kind of appreciation that slows the room down.
Born Revoyda Frierson in Hope, Arkansas, she came from a farming family and grew into a singer and actress whose [...]

The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma â The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just âtake a deep breath and calm down.â
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mouth got tired of telling.
Your shoulders may remember what you had to carry.
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Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
⨠Affirmation â¨
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me.
I carry the name given by my survivalâStrength. Courage. Unbreakable.
I wa [...]

The Lie of âNot Enough Trained Peopleâ: What Martin, Motown, and Black Representation Already Proved
There is an old lie that keeps getting dressed up as wisdom.
It says Black communities do not get full representation because there are not enough âtrainedâ people.
Not enough trained actors.
Not enough trained writers.
Not [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind Americaâs âIconicâ Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too much "heavy" on the "heavily influenced."
American stage entertainment keeps [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
⨠âYouâre Not Brokenâ: Affirmations for Survivors Living with PTSD
My mind is not brokenâit is doing what it had to do to survive the unspeakable.
I honor the parts of me that feel chaotic, confused, or [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
đ Resilience & Strength
âYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
đš They Fear the Day You Finally See Yourself Clearly
They donât fear your mistakes.
They donât fear your pain.They donât even fear your anger.
What they fear â is your clarity.
Because the momen [...]
I Choose Boundaries, Not Codependency: An Affirmation for Healing
Sometimes, the language of âcodependencyâ gets weaponized against peopleâespecially womenâwho were raised to care, to
nurture, to serve. Humans [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

They Went to a Jamaica Retreat Before a Hurricane and Found Belonging
I am a fan of how people from the African diaspora give love and how we embrace others.Â
There are seasons when life feels like a storm that just won [...]

đ¤ Deep Affirmations That Speak to Fear
đĽ I will not lie to myself about fear
I am afraid sometimes â and still, I move.
Fear is not weakness. Fear means Iâm standing at the ed [...]

Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From â Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that âhealingâ means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
Am I Selfish for Setting Boundaries? (audio)
Setting boundaries can feel like you're being selfish. Â But we'll talk about how setting boundaries is something that everyone should do to help eve [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
đż Affirmations to Silence Internalized Shame
For the Survivor who still carries what was never hers to hold.
The shame I carry does not belong to me. I lay it down, piece by piece, and r [...]
⨠Knowing My Body Is My Birthright. â¨
Knowing about my body and how it functions is not shameful.It is not taboo.It is not âtoo much.â
It is my right.As a woman.As a human being.As someon [...]
đ§ď¸ Affirmation: The Rain Brings Clarity
Iâve learned to be more grateful for clarity.
I donât love the storms that bring it â but I honor what they wash away.
I hate hard times.
I hate [...]
What I Survived Speaks Louder Than What They Say
⨠Affirmation â¨
What they say is fleetingârumors, whispers, labels.But what I survived is eternalâit beats like a drum in my spirit.My scars sing lou [...]
She Is AMAZING
Survivor Affirmations: Actually, I CAN and I WILL (podcast short)
Building on the true story of the United States' first elected woman mayor, Susanna Salter, this short episode inspires listeners to believe t [...]
đż Meghan Markle: Affirmations for Those Still Standing
I am still here, and that alone is a victory.
What tried to break me did not get the final word.
My spirit bends, but it does not [...]
12 Reasons Lauryn Hill Deserves More Respect for Her Impact on Music (w/affirmations)
The only reason that men question Lauryn Hill's
accomplishments
is because they can't find a way
to take credit for them.
Lauryn Hill was never j [...]
Affirming Television Moments: When the Women Tore Down the Wall
First, giving gratitude to Oprah because this type of programming was very uncommon back in 1989. When you wanted to see television films like this, y [...]
ART HEALS
Your Authentic Voice Belongs In This Season
There is something Iâve noticed across history â and I feel it stirring again.
Whenever those in power get too big, too loud, too controllingâŚwheneve [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
đ Resilience & Strength
âYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
Itâs Not About Safety. Itâs About How He Used His Body.
Notice how people speak about sacrifices made for art vs. how they speak about sacrifices made for their favorite football or basketball player.....
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The Power of Music: Candi Staton’s Anthem
This is one of my favorite songs from girlhood. I LOVE the tone in her voice and listen to her song catalog regularly. She is soulful.&nbs [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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