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What “Find 100 Ways” Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a woman’s re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just “the children are gone now.”
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
“The function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.” Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who believed disagreement was disobedience. She was a woman living under laws that trea [...]
Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctor’s Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to someone who may or may not listen.
Some patients walk into the doctor’s offic [...]

Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of “GoGo.”
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow, both are rooted in survival.
Many of us Black Americans kno [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodley’s mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It ain't his turn."
Please, do not ever let anyone convince you of false th [...]

Ketty Lester: Honor the Firsts, Remember the Closed Doors
Ketty Lester deserves more than a passing mention. She deserves the kind of appreciation that slows the room down.
Born Revoyda Frierson in Hope, Arkansas, she came from a farming family and grew into a singer and actress whose [...]

The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma — The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just “take a deep breath and calm down.”
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mouth got tired of telling.
Your shoulders may remember what you had to carry.
[...]

Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
✨ Affirmation ✨
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me.
I carry the name given by my survival—Strength. Courage. Unbreakable.
I wa [...]

The Lie of “Not Enough Trained People”: What Martin, Motown, and Black Representation Already Proved
There is an old lie that keeps getting dressed up as wisdom.
It says Black communities do not get full representation because there are not enough “trained” people.
Not enough trained actors.
Not enough trained writers.
Not [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind America’s “Iconic” Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too much "heavy" on the "heavily influenced."
American stage entertainment keeps [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Survivor Affirmation: I Do Not Rush to Be Understood
"Even silence can be a form of sacred truth."— SurvivorAffirmations.com
✏️ Reflection Prompt:
When have I felt safe to s [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Being Silenced Doesn’t Mean I Was Wrong
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
When the world doesn’t want to hear your truth,they may call you "dramatic", "bitter", "att [...]
Survivor Must-Read Reading List: Black Widow by Leslie Gray Streeter
I've been familiar with the power of Leslie's pen for years. But when a storm of loss and change came around just when her beautiful memoir was [...]
Survivors Matter, You Are Not to Be Dismissed (audio)
Throwing it back to wisdom from Zora Neale Hurston, on refusing to be dismissed.
Here are 20 phrases people use to dismiss feelings. (2021)
[...]
Self-Care That Rebuilds You — Without Feeling Like a Lie
Self-Care That Rebuilds You — Without Feeling Like a Lie
Some days, surviving is the win. If you’ve been through abuse, the language of “self-car [...]
They Spoke Labels. I Lived Through Fire.
✨ Affirmation ✨
They tried to pin me down with names that never belonged to me.
They whispered labels meant to wound, meant to cage.
But I rose t [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
✨ Protecting Your Aura: Setting Boundaries with Toxic People
Some people drain the life out of every room. They thrive on chaos, belittling, and control. And when you are a Survivor, you already know the cost [...]

From Shame to Strategy: How to Train Your Brain to Fail Smarter
Learning about shame is so important. I've personally seen shame drive people to their very end.
Learning about shame is a life saver.
[...]

8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
I’m Not Here to Be Believed by Everyone—I’m Here to Be Free
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Freedom is not the same as being liked.Freedom is not the same as being approved of.And f [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who belie [...]
Seven Things Highly Sensitive People Must Guard Against
People who are highly sensitive (sometimes called HSPs—Highly Sensitive Persons) carry gifts—empathy, intuition, creativity, deep listening—but those [...]
The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a woman’s re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just “the [...]
🐑 Why “Black Sheep” Roles Are Common in Dysfunctional Families
1. Scapegoating Relieves Pressure on the Group
In families that are unstable or abusive, members often project problems onto one person.
[...]
Building Strength from Within Through Anxiety Management Techniques
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In an era where demands and
expectations are constantl [...]
She Is AMAZING
10 Affirmations For Women Securing Their Own Well-Being
Strong boundaries empower my empathy; I can be loving without enabling behavior that harms.
Allowing harmful behavior serves no one—I choose s [...]
Playing by Heart: Alberta Hunter and the Power of Soul Wisdom
Alberta Hunter’s life was a testament to the power of the "unpolished" authentic soul. She was a woman who conquered the world's stages, walked away t [...]
🌿 Halimah Yacob: She Was Not Handed Ease. She Built Something Anyway.
Halimah Yacob did not begin life surrounded by comfort.
She lost her father young.Her family struggled.There were real limitations. Not imagined ones [...]
Vivica A. Fox: A master class in showing up and showing out from her days on Soul Train
Soul Train dancers were not “just dancers.”
They were artists.
People sometimes talk about Soul Train like it was simply a place to party.
But look [...]
50 Things to Talk About Instead of Black Women’s Hair (Because Your Concern is Not Genuine)
Let’s be honest—Black women’s hair has been politicized, policed, and prodded at for far too long. We’ve worn it straight, coiled, locked, twisted, [...]
ART HEALS
Lessons from The Wedding: The Kind of Love That Looks Good—and Still Costs You
Another televised Oprah production. She doesn't appear in this film, but if you are a fan of the wonderful series Greenleaf, you will definitely note [...]
You Belong Here, Here, and There too; Even If Others Reject You.
🎷 Green Book Affirmations 🎷
Just like the Green Book guided travelers through danger, I trust my instincts to guide me to safety, dignity, an [...]
Soul Music Connects to Your Soul and Your Spirit
“Soul music is true to its name. It's music that connects to your soul, your spirit. … when people can emotionally connect with something or it helps [...]
Living in Truth in a Loud World: The Courage to Stand Tall
There was a time when a singer could stand on a stage, look out at the world, and sing a line that would echo for generations:
“I did it my way.”
Th [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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