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What “Find 100 Ways” Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
The Playlist: Funk, Soul, and Body Release
Some anxiety does not need another explanation. It needs a doorway out of the body.
Sometimes anxiety does not leave through thinking. Sometimes it leaves through the shoulders. Through the jaw. Through the hands. Through the b [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a woman’s re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just “the children are gone now.”
Not just a season people joke about with sadness, lon [...]
When Dismissal Tries to Turn You Against Your Own Body
“The function, the very serious function of racism is distraction. It keeps you from doing your work. It keeps you explaining, over and over again, your reason for being.” Toni Morrison
Mistreatment often tries to make th [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who believed disagreement was disobedience. She was a woman living under laws that trea [...]
Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctor’s Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to someone who may or may not listen.
Some patients walk into the doctor’s offic [...]

Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of “GoGo.”
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow, both are rooted in survival.
Many of us Black Americans kno [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodley’s mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
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"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It ain't his turn."Â
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Please, do not ever let anyone convince you of false th [...]

Ketty Lester: Honor the Firsts, Remember the Closed Doors
Ketty Lester deserves more than a passing mention. She deserves the kind of appreciation that slows the room down.
Born Revoyda Frierson in Hope, Arkansas, she came from a farming family and grew into a singer and actress whose [...]

The 12 Somatic Knots of Trauma — The Complete Map from Sacrum to Jaw (and How to Untie Them)
updated from March 24, 2024
Somatic healing is not just “take a deep breath and calm down.”
Sometimes your body is holding a story your mouth got tired of telling.
Your shoulders may remember what you had to carry.
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Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
✨ Affirmation ✨
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me.
I carry the name given by my survival—Strength. Courage. Unbreakable.
I wa [...]

The Lie of “Not Enough Trained People”: What Martin, Motown, and Black Representation Already Proved
There is an old lie that keeps getting dressed up as wisdom.
It says Black communities do not get full representation because there are not enough “trained” people.
Not enough trained actors.
Not enough trained writers.
Not [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind America’s “Iconic” Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too much "heavy" on the "heavily influenced."
American stage entertainment keeps [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Black Women Deserve to Be Believed Without Being Perfect
DARVO becomes even more dangerous when it borrows from racism, sexism, and old lies about Black women and Black girls. We do not honor truth by protecting the most liked person. We honor truth by refusing to let stereotypes test [...]

When Being Yourself Is Labeled “Political”: Why some people are punished simply for showing up
Nat King Cole really was attacked on stage during a concert in Birmingham, Alabama, in 1956.
While performing at the Municipal Auditorium in Birmingham before an all-white audience, a group of white segregationists rushed the s [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
đź’¬ 10 Ways Coaching Helps Survivors Reclaim Their Power
A guide for those who’ve survived abuse and are ready to grow, rebuild, and move forward—with support.
Surviving abuse is not the end of yo [...]
Affirmations for Children Told to Stay Silent to Protect Culture
From SurvivorAffirmations.com
They told you to stay quiet so we could look strong.They told you to smile so we wouldn’t make people uncomfortable [...]
đź’Ą Boundaries Are Health Care (Yes, I Said What I Said)
Let’s go ahead and set the record straight:Boundaries are not rude.They’re not mean.They’re not "doing too much."They are health care.
That’s right [...]
✨ You Don’t Need Anyone’s Permission to Protect Your Spirit. ✨
You are allowed to leave rooms where your truth is treated like a burden.
You are allowed to say no without a long explanation.
You are allowed to t [...]
PBS Newshour: A Brief But Spectacular take on living like we’re dying
To love deeply is to live joyfully.
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My Pain Is Not a Public Spectacle
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
You are not a headline.You are not a punchline.You are not here for anyone’s entertainmen [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Lessons from The Wedding: The Kind of Love That Looks Good—and Still Costs You
Another televised Oprah production. She doesn't appear in this film, but if you are a fan of the wonderful series Greenleaf, you will definitely note [...]

This Is Why I Study Our Art — Deeply, Tenderly, Proudly
There comes a time when I grow beyond saying:
“That’s just old.”
“Just something from back then.”
“Just music, just fashion, just dancing.”
No.
O [...]

12 Free eBooks to Support Your Somatic Healing Journey
Dear Survivor,
They are playing in your face by making you explain. And explain. And explain. Forget them.
All these folks running around protecti [...]
How to Make the Most of Your Regrets (audio)
How to Make the Most of Your Regrets (audio):
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HEALTHING JOURNEY
Strong Self-Compassion for Women
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Survivor Affirmation: I Appreciate Me for Being Me (featuring poet Steven Willis w Youtube video link)
Affirmation: I speak to myself in the tone I once searched for in others—
gentle, unhurried, faithful to my becoming.
Oh how I love, adore, and a [...]
🌤️ Clarity After Chaos, Grief, and Rain
There comes a moment — after the thunder, after the tears — when the air feels different.
It’s quieter.
Cleaner.
You can finally see what was [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Am Honoring Myself Now
You are not here to shrink.You are not here to twist, bend, or break yourselfjust to be accepted by people or places that can't hold your truth.Every [...]
She Is AMAZING
Vivica A. Fox: A master class in showing up and showing out from her days on Soul Train
Soul Train dancers were not “just dancers.”
They were artists.
People sometimes talk about Soul Train like it was simply a place to party.
But look [...]
The Forgotten Scientist Who Cured Leprosy – The Story of Alice Ball (w/affirmations)
The Forgotten Scientist Who Cured Leprosy – The Story of Alice Ball: A pioneering woman's life cut short before she reached her full potential and los [...]
The Forgotten Black Woman Inventor Who Changed the Lives of Women and People with Disabilities
Mary Beatrice Davidson Kenner
(1912-2006)
The Forgotten Black Woman Inventor Who Revolutionized Menstrual Pads
(article with audio)
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Untold Inventions Of Black Women Inventors That Schools Don’t Teach in Black History
Surviving isn’t luck—it’s innovation and strategy. “I create what has never been seen, because innovation runs in my bloodline.” [...]
Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who belie [...]
ART HEALS
Merry Christmas Brave and Courageous Survivors!
My feelings matter, even during the holidays. I’m allowed to honor them.
I choose to notice kindness instead of chasing app [...]
Dorothy Porter Wesley: The Woman Who Transformed the Dewey Decimal System
Libraries are often called the gateways to knowledge. But have you ever wondered who decides how books get organized? For over a century, most libra [...]
How the Dog Got Angry…and Maybe We Should Too.
Nature is my favorite instructor. We do not need to accept crumbs. We have every right to get angry in the face of unfairness and inju [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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