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After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It sa [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Finding Freedom Through Movement: How Dance Becomes a Healing Journey from Abuse πβ¨
So, the fabulous Eartha Kitt was a triple threat. Dancer, singer, and actor. She was also a Survivor.
By every reasonable understanding of the word,Β [...]
How to Really Let Go of Past Mistakes and Move Ahead (audio)
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8 Lessons for Survivors from the Film Mi Familia
I first saw this film back when walking down the aisles of Blockbuster on Friday nights was hot.
I picked up the case, saw a lot of my favorite acto [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Release Myself from Toxic Relationships
I release relationships that feed on my light but offer no warmth in return.I am not here to shrink, dim, or beg for reciprocity.
AND......
[...]
β¨ βYouβre Not Brokenβ: Affirmations for Survivors Living with PTSD
My mind is not brokenβit is doing what it had to do to survive the unspeakable.
I honor the parts of me that feel chaotic, confused, or [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

You Belong Here, Here, and There too; Even If Others Reject You.
π· Green Book Affirmations π·
Just like the Green Book guided travelers through danger, I trust my instincts to guide me to safety, dignity, an [...]
π You Deserve to Feel Safe
Affirmations for Survivors Learning to Trust Peace Again
There is a kind of safety that isnβt just physical.
Itβs emotional.Spiritual.Energetic.
It [...]

How the Dog Got Angry…and Maybe We Should Too.
Nature is my favorite instructor. We do not need to accept crumbs. We have every right to get angry in the face of unfairness and inju [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
π Resilience & Strength
βYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
Holistically Rah | Why the Closest People Sabotage Your Healing (And What to Do About It)
Why do the people closest to you sabotage your healing? This powerful video exposes the hidden reasons behind their resistanceβfear, control, and proj [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
When an American presidential administration attempted to blacklist and silence Eartha Kitt, she simply took her talents and skills overseas where [...]
Women Are the Source, Not the Punchline
βIt is not inclusive to sit silent while people mock the beauty and humanity of women. That is not progressβit is plain old misogyny. The same misogyn [...]
She Is AMAZING
BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities h [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Barbara Joy Hansen
Barbara onΒ Dr. Oz ShowΒ with 20 survivors of sexual assault/harassment in New York City.
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This woman is dedicated to healing and ending abuse! [...]
Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Actually, I CAN and I WILL (podcast short)
Building on the true story of the United States' first elected woman mayor, Susanna Salter, this short episode inspires listeners to believe t [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Patti LaBelle, the Beautiful Assertion
Before the world knew her as Patti LaBelle, she was Patricia Louise Holte, a girl from Philadelphia with a voice that could rise from the church floor [...]
Women Are the Source, Not the Punchline
βIt is not inclusive to sit silent while people mock the beauty and humanity of women. That is not progressβit is plain old misogyny. The same misogyn [...]
ART HEALS
A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black tel [...]
REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the l [...]
You Have Every Right to Be Beautifully Represented
β¦ [SurvivorAffirmations.com] β¦
Dear Survivor,
You have every right to speak your mind about how you are represented.
Your story.Your image.Your s [...]
Growing Up in the 70’s | Black Perspective
Gratitude and appreciation to @Kimbar1313 on Tiktok for reminding us that we can be going through difficult times but creating your own joy. In fa [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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