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Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]

A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black television history:Β Black men being shown as steady, present, humorous, loving, a [...]
SurvivorAffirmations: Peace and Safety Are Sacred Gardens
To grow up with people who gardened and made preserves was to know that things of nature require protection and care. GenX played outside a lot, but we also knew where not to play. Where not to play kickball: Because if the ball [...]
Denise Oliver-Velez: May the Ancestors Welcome a Warrior Home
She was connection. Connection to history. Connection to power. ConnectionΒ to love. Connection to belonging. Connection to power.
Some lives become history books long before they become memorials
Denise Oliver-Velez leaves be [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
Healing Is Not a RaceβItβs a Resurrection
Healing was never about βgetting overβ the past.It was never about rushing to a finish lineβBecause there is no finish line.
True healing is becoming [...]
Survivor Affirmations: History Remembers What is Rooted in Truth, Love, and Dignity.
American fashion icon Dapper Dan shares the history of the Adinkra symbol 'Sankofa' in Harlem, New York (& other places around the United St [...]
Affirmations for Children Told to Stay Silent to Protect Culture
From SurvivorAffirmations.com
They told you to stay quiet so we could look strong.They told you to smile so we wouldnβt make people uncomfortable [...]
πΉ Even Their Hatred Confirms Your Impact
When the whispers start,
when the eyes roll,when they twist your name into something smallerβpause.
Remember: people do not waste hatred on what i [...]
Lessons from Pam Grier’s Memoir for Survivors
updated from December 2024
I love it when women tell our own stories in our own words!
When Pam Grier's memoir came out...I [...]
Small Shifts, Big Relief: Real-World Ways to Defuse Everyday Stress
Stress isnβt loud. It creeps in quietly. A clenched jaw, missed sleep, a flinch at a harmless notification. Left unchecked, it coils tighter. But [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Steadfast Souls Win Slow Races
I encourage you to be steadfast in your pursuit of your education. I have a bachelor's degree but getting it did not look like it does on tele [...]
Let Them Cheer for the Wrong Side. Iβm Still Here. Iβm Still Whole.
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
They clapped for the one who caused the harm.They stood beside him, took photos, posted q [...]
Prayer Is Still Power: A Survivorβs Sanctuary
Prayer has held us when nothing else could.When the world closed its ears.When justice was denied.When even our own voices trembled in silenceβpraye [...]
Survivor Affirmations: History Remembers What is Rooted in Truth, Love, and Dignity.
American fashion icon Dapper Dan shares the history of the Adinkra symbol 'Sankofa' in Harlem, New York (& other places around the United St [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
π Co-Regulation: When Safety Is Built Together
There is a sacred kind of healing that doesn't come from being alone.
It comes from someone else's steady breath beside yours.A hand that doesnβt fli [...]
IF ONLY Black Textured Hair Were “Just Hair”
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Reclaiming the Fire: Brown Fat, Survival Mode & the Body That Still Loves You
Youβve been surviving.
Youβve been carrying the weight of silence, systems, sorrow, and staying ready for the next hitβemotional or otherwise.
So if [...]
πΏ Dear Woman Who Has Decided to Heal in Private
I see you.
Not the version you show the world.Not the smile you put on so no one asks too many questions.Not the polite nods, the quick conversations [...]
Steadfast Souls Win Slow Races
I encourage you to be steadfast in your pursuit of your education. I have a bachelor's degree but getting it did not look like it does on tele [...]
She Is AMAZING
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
Sheila Johnson: When the Path Changes, I Do Not ShrinkβI Reimagine
I am not limited by what did not work.I am expanded by what I now know.I dream againβand this time, I dream with power.
There are women who succeed.
[...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Chaka Khan, Bold Enough to Remain Herself
Chaka Khan has never moved through the world like a woman asking to be watered down.
Her voice has heat in it. Fire. Velvet. Thunder. A little chur [...]
Affirmations for Black Women on a Personal Journey with Our Hair Inspired by ShesASolarBeing
Affirmations for Black Women on a Personal Journey with Our Hair
From the roots to the rhythm, this is sacred.
πΏ I honor the truth that my hair is n [...]
BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda wa [...]
πΊ Marielle Franco: She Spoke. Even When It Was Dangerous to Speak.
Marielle Franco was a Black woman from the favelas ofΒ Rio de Janeiro.
She knew violence.Not from headlines.From proximity.
From lived experience.
F [...]
ART HEALS
Black Music Month, Bay Leaves, and the Pages That Hold Our Stories
Some traditions are loud.
A choir lifting a song.
A drum carrying memory across generations.
A family reunion filled with laughter.
Other trad [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 1)
Updated for 2025
πΏ For the Survivorβs Journey
1. βThere is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.β
2. βYou alone are eno [...]
Finding Freedom Through Movement: How Dance Becomes a Healing Journey from Abuse πβ¨
So, the fabulous Eartha Kitt was a triple threat. Dancer, singer, and actor. She was also a Survivor.
By every reasonable understanding of the word,Β [...]
When Youβre Trained to Consume a Culture but Not Understand It (Amplifying Affirmations for Black Creators)
It isn't that people think that Black art should never be critiqued, but there is undeniable and die-hard racism within the critiques. Further, when m [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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