
You Remember the Beat. But Do You Remember What Chubb Rock Was Saying?
I have been thinking about Chubb Rock’s “Treat ’Em Right”.
Maybe it is because I keep hearing people talk about hip-hop as though an entire generation of Black music can be summarized by the worst words anybody ever said on a [...]

Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r-e-s-s-e-d.
Look at photographs of Black Americans from the 1920s, ’30s and [...]

Why Does He Get Angry When You’re Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
Inspired by.......
Why women’s laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche IdeasÂ
Posted by Amy Diehl, Ph.D on X.com
There is a scene television loves to give us before a man becomes violent with a [...]

Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange “9 to 5” for that instrumentation. Musicians had to learn their individual parts. Sections had to rehearse until they [...]

Dance is a Weapon, a Womb, and a Journey Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples have danced through grief, joy, resistance, and survival. For us, dance has n [...]

Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]

Greg Louganis Was One of the Strongest Athletes in the World. That Didn’t Make Him Safe.
Greg Louganis knew what it meant to command his body.
At the height of his career, he could climb ten meters above a pool, launch himself into open air, rotate with astonishing precision and enter the water with barely a dist [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invitation to breathe, to feel, to remember that you mattered. Behind that quiet rev [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Am Allowed to Be More than My Worst Decision
Maybe we don't have more talented female singers in mainstream markets these days because we never learned how to treat them?Â
There was something about Chrisette Michele’s voice that could sit inside feelings Black women do [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
Some lives shine because of talent.
Others shine because of courage.
Nell [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Have the Courage to Expand and Not Shrink
There is a particular kind of courage nobody talks about enough.
It is the courage to remain recognizable to yourself.
Most of us learn very early that belonging has rules. Children figure out which parts of themselves mak [...]

Survivor Affirmation: I Love and Approve of Myself No Matter What
🌟 Affirmation
I love and approve of myself, no matter what.
I am a valuable person and make worthwhile contributions to the world.
Each day, in big and small ways, I remind myself of this.
In any circumstance, I know that [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Love My Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.
I am exactly as I am meant to be.
Only I can make my own unique contributions to the world.
When I think about this, I feel pride.
Therefor [...]

They Loved the Style, Not the Black Woman: Esther Jones and the Betty Boop Lesson
Exploitation is a hand that smiles while taking.
It praises your light, then sells your flame.
It calls it “help,” but leaves you colder.
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These days when people are pretty casual and complacent about women's [...]

10 Lessons the African Drongo Bird Teaches Us About Manipulation
Most of us have the capacity to manipulate at times. We may exaggerate, avoid difficult conversations, or try to influence outcomes in our favor.
But some people make manipulation a way of life.
They study peop [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Lessons From the Female Elephant on Survival
There is a question women are asked to answer that we were never really equipped to answer.
How do you know which men are good and which men are dangerous?
Women are expected to somehow know. After harm happens, people may [...]

Across the Water: We Were Never Surviving Alone
There is a way of telling Black history that can accidentally leave Black Americans standing alone.
We learn about the courage it took to survive slavery and Jim Crow, build schools and businesses, organize churches and mutua [...]
SurvivorAffirmations: You Do Not Have to Become a Tragedy Before We See You
Sometimes a woman does not need another person telling her to be strong.
She has been strong all morning.
She got somebody dressed. Found the missing shoe. Answered the message. Remembered the appointment. Made something to ea [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
New to Boundaries? You’re Not Alone.
For many of us who survived abuse, neglect, or manipulation, the concept of “boundaries” may feel foreign—maybe even scary.
You might have grown up i [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invita [...]
Compassion at the Table: Nothing New, This How We Do
Where I am from, when we say DEI, we’re saying:
“You belong here. I see you. I will work so that you can be safe, heard, and fully present.”
I [...]
Survivor Affirmations: The Beauty of Sharing Joy
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is_from_webapp=1&sender_device=pc&web_id=74812796269856210 [...]
I’m Not Here to Be Believed by Everyone—I’m Here to Be Free
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Freedom is not the same as being liked.Freedom is not the same as being approved of.And f [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Being the Light You Need in Darkness
It is possible to be okay if you remember to hold on and be the light that you need in the darkness.Â
Affirmations: Being the Light You Need in Darkn [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

Survivor Affirmations: I Tend My Own Light (w video)
We might not be able to be friends and that's okay.
• Part of my healing is recognizing that not every person deserves access to my spiri [...]
Oh, We Been the Fire
Look at us.
Not surviving — shining.
That kind of laughter that breaks every chain still trying to hold on.
That joy they said was too loud f [...]
Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself As Long As I Can
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Affirmations for Patients Who Are Afraid They Will Not Be Heard at the Doctor’s Office
There is a particular kind of tired that comes from knowing something is happening in your body, then having to gather your strength to explain it to [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Survivor Affirmations: I Have the Courage to Expand and Not Shrink
There is a particular kind of courage nobody talks about enough.
It is the courage to remain recognizable to yourself.
Most of us learn very ear [...]
🌹 Even Their Hatred Confirms Your Impact
When the whispers start,
when the eyes roll,when they twist your name into something smaller—pause.
Remember: people do not waste hatred on what i [...]
My Pain Is Not a Public Spectacle
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
You are not a headline.You are not a punchline.You are not here for anyone’s entertainmen [...]
Why Insomnia Is a Silent Epidemic in the Black Diaspora
Sleep is supposed to be a place of peace. Yet for many across the Black diaspora, rest feels distant, interrupted, or impossible. Insomnia isn’t just [...]
✨ “You’re Not Broken”: Affirmations for Survivors Living with PTSD
My mind is not broken—it is doing what it had to do to survive the unspeakable.
I honor the parts of me that feel chaotic, confused, or [...]
Life Calls Us to Evolve Culturally Too: Sinners Dancers Revealed !! Juke Joint Scene Explained — Dance Styles, Symbolism & Forgotten History
Life does not call us to evolve through advancements in technology only. Life calls us to evolve culturally as well.Â
Without cultural evolution:
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She Is AMAZING
Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself As Long As I Can
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Why Does He Get Angry When You’re Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
Inspired by.......
Why women’s laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche IdeasÂ
Posted by Amy Diehl, Ph.D on X.com
Th [...]
Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee U [...]
50 Things to Talk About Instead of Black Women’s Hair (Because Your Concern is Not Genuine)
Let’s be honest—Black women’s hair has been politicized, policed, and prodded at for far too long. We’ve worn it straight, coiled, locked, twisted, [...]
12 Reasons Lauryn Hill Deserves More Respect for Her Impact on Music (w/affirmations)
updated from March 2026
The only reason that men question Lauryn Hill's
accomplishments
is because they can't find a way
to take credit for them. [...]
ART HEALS
Soul Train: Where art became cross-cultural language
Soul Train. Soullll Train. The hippest trip in America.
 I was in front of my television nearly every Saturday morning and pouted when I couldn't be. [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 1)
Updated for 2025
🌿 For the Survivor’s Journey
1. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
2. “You alone are eno [...]
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From — Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that “healing” means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
Survivor Affirmations: A Few of Our Favorite Books
Our Favortie Books by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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