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After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]

A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black television history:Β Black men being shown as steady, present, humorous, loving, a [...]
SurvivorAffirmations: Peace and Safety Are Sacred Gardens
To grow up with people who gardened and made preserves was to know that things of nature require protection and care. GenX played outside a lot, but we also knew where not to play. Where not to play kickball: Because if the ball [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
π₯ 10 Survivor Affirmations to Heal from Gaslighting
I trust my voice, my memory, and my experience. What I lived through is real, and no one can erase that truth.
I am n [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way) w/ Affirmations
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way)
If you want to step away from the digital noise and tap into that grounded, authentic energy of th [...]
π When Healing Hurts (And It Will, More Than Once)
For the Survivor who wonders why healing feels heavy, not light.
Nobody tells you this part:
Healing doesnβt always feel like relief.Somet [...]
Affirmations for Black Women on a Personal Journey with Our Hair Inspired by ShesASolarBeing
Affirmations for Black Women on a Personal Journey with Our Hair
From the roots to the rhythm, this is sacred.
πΏ I honor the truth that my hair is n [...]
Survivor Must-Read Reading List: Black Widow by Leslie Gray Streeter
I've been familiar with the power of Leslie's pen for years. But when a storm of loss and change came around just when her beautiful memoir was [...]
π± Affirmations for the Survivor Accused of βChangingβ
Here is a healing and empowering set of affirmations for Survivors who are being accused of βchangingββwhen in reality, they are growing, healing, and [...]
πΊ Survivor Affirmations Post: βI Am No Longer Waiting for Them to See Meβ
A declaration for the Survivor who has outgrown invisibility.
There was a time I whispered, hoping someone would hear.A time I stood still, [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
They Spoke Labels. I Lived Through Fire.
β¨ Affirmation β¨
They tried to pin me down with names that never belonged to me.
They whispered labels meant to wound, meant to cage.
But I rose t [...]
Iβm Not Here to Be Believed by EveryoneβIβm Here to Be Free
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Freedom is not the same as being liked.Freedom is not the same as being approved of.And f [...]
The Sacred Right to Be Unapologetic
They raised us on a steady diet of sorry.
Sorry for being too loud.Sorry for taking up space.Sorry for saying no.Sorry for wanting more.Sorry for not [...]

The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a womanβs re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just βthe [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
The Winter 2025 Strength and Abuse Issue
Of course, it is possible to be strong and depressed at the same time.Β Be gentle with yourself.
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Justification of MY Healing Timeline is Not Part of My Journey
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Others will say you βshould be over it by now.βBut healing isnβt a race.And grief doesnβt [...]
I Protect My Peace Like Itβs SacredβBecause It Is
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Youβve been through enough.
You donβt owe your peace to debates, headlines, strangers, o [...]
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youβve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakβLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
πΏ Reclaiming: Cleaning the Skin Is Caring for the Self
I recently heard a male podcaster proudly say he βdoesnβt touch his feet,β as if neglecting parts of his own body was something to brag about.He is [...]
She Is AMAZING
Survivor Affirmations: I Tend My Own Light (w video)
We might not be able to be friends and that's okay.
β’ Part of my healing is recognizing that not every person deserves access to my spiri [...]
REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the l [...]
Women Are the Source, Not the Punchline
βIt is not inclusive to sit silent while people mock the beauty and humanity of women. That is not progressβit is plain old misogyny. The same misogyn [...]
πΏ Halimah Yacob: She Was Not Handed Ease. She Built Something Anyway.
Halimah YacobΒ did not begin life surrounded by comfort.
She lost her father young.Her family struggled.There were real limitations. Not imagined ones [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Carry Forward the Creativity and Brilliance of Women Who Came Before Me.
Sarah Boone (1832β1904) was one of the first Black women in the United States to receive a patent, but not the very first.
In 1892, Boone w [...]
ART HEALS
Lessons from The Wedding: The Kind of Love That Looks Goodβand Still Costs You
Another televised Oprah production. She doesn't appear in this film, but if you are a fan of the wonderful series Greenleaf, you will definitely note [...]
The Phenomenal Phyllis Hyman, Institutional Betrayal, and Affirmations for Your Own Battles
Sometimes it isn't 'imposter syndrome.' Sometimes institutions just want you to be something that you are not because it is easier for them. B [...]
Survivor Affirmations: History Remembers What is Rooted in Truth, Love, and Dignity.
American fashion icon Dapper Dan shares the history of the Adinkra symbol 'Sankofa' in Harlem, New York (& other places around the United St [...]
Survivor Affirmations Inspired by The Joy Luck Club (with audio book)
Thereβs something sacred aboutΒ The Joy Luck Club.Not just the storyβbut the witnessing. The layering. The quiet truths that refuse to stay buried.
Le [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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