Steve Harvey Survived the Closed Door Because It Wasn’t His Only Door
There is something Steve Harvey has been saying lately that I think is worth hearing beyond the celebrity story.
Harvey has spoken about conflict he experienced with a powerful television executive and what he believes ha [...]

You Remember the Beat. But Do You Remember What Chubb Rock Was Saying?
I have been thinking about Chubb Rock’s “Treat ’Em Right”.
Maybe it is because I keep hearing people talk about hip-hop as though an entire generation of Black music can be summarized by the worst words anybody ever said on a [...]

Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r-e-s-s-e-d.
Look at photographs of Black Americans from the 1920s, ’30s and [...]

Why Does He Get Angry When You’re Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
Inspired by.......
Why women’s laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche IdeasÂ
Posted by Amy Diehl, Ph.D on X.com
There is a scene television loves to give us before a man becomes violent with a [...]

Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange “9 to 5” for that instrumentation. Musicians had to learn their individual parts. Sections had to rehearse until they [...]

Dance is a Weapon, a Womb, and a Journey Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples have danced through grief, joy, resistance, and survival. For us, dance has n [...]

Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]

Greg Louganis Was One of the Strongest Athletes in the World. That Didn’t Make Him Safe.
Greg Louganis knew what it meant to command his body.
At the height of his career, he could climb ten meters above a pool, launch himself into open air, rotate with astonishing precision and enter the water with barely a dist [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invitation to breathe, to feel, to remember that you mattered. Behind that quiet rev [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Am Allowed to Be More than My Worst Decision
Maybe we don't have more talented female singers in mainstream markets these days because we never learned how to treat them?Â
There was something about Chrisette Michele’s voice that could sit inside feelings Black women do [...]
Nell Carter: A Voice That Refused to Break
When I was a child, Nell Carter was one of my favorite entertainers. She still is. I had to share her with millions of other people though.
Some lives shine because of talent.
Others shine because of courage.
Nell [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Have the Courage to Expand and Not Shrink
There is a particular kind of courage nobody talks about enough.
It is the courage to remain recognizable to yourself.
Most of us learn very early that belonging has rules. Children figure out which parts of themselves mak [...]

Survivor Affirmation: I Love and Approve of Myself No Matter What
🌟 Affirmation
I love and approve of myself, no matter what.
I am a valuable person and make worthwhile contributions to the world.
Each day, in big and small ways, I remind myself of this.
In any circumstance, I know that [...]

Survivor Affirmations: I Love My Uniqueness
I love myself for my uniqueness.I value myself because I am different.
I am exactly as I am meant to be.
Only I can make my own unique contributions to the world.
When I think about this, I feel pride.
Therefor [...]

They Loved the Style, Not the Black Woman: Esther Jones and the Betty Boop Lesson
Exploitation is a hand that smiles while taking.
It praises your light, then sells your flame.
It calls it “help,” but leaves you colder.
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These days when people are pretty casual and complacent about women's [...]

10 Lessons the African Drongo Bird Teaches Us About Manipulation
Most of us have the capacity to manipulate at times. We may exaggerate, avoid difficult conversations, or try to influence outcomes in our favor.
But some people make manipulation a way of life.
They study peop [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Lessons From the Female Elephant on Survival
There is a question women are asked to answer that we were never really equipped to answer.
How do you know which men are good and which men are dangerous?
Women are expected to somehow know. After harm happens, people may [...]

Across the Water: We Were Never Surviving Alone
There is a way of telling Black history that can accidentally leave Black Americans standing alone.
We learn about the courage it took to survive slavery and Jim Crow, build schools and businesses, organize churches and mutua [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
Your Voice Is a Lighthouse: Keep Shining Through the Noise (Featuring Amazing Animated Story by BigBoi)
I woke up and encountered this story by BigBoi. Made my morning.
Your story has the power to do that too. Keep living. Keep crafting your storytel [...]
Experts say Black women may have uncommon depression symptoms
The importance of challenging the “Strong Black Woman” myth cannot be overstated. That stereotype — often praised as empowerment — can quietly functio [...]
10 Signs Someone on Your Journey Doesn’t Want the Best for You
Not everyone who walks with you is truly walking for you. Some people clap when you’re down and grow silent when you rise. Here are signs to watch for [...]
🕊 You Are the Reason They Built the Walls — Because You Could Walk Through Them
They told the story wrong.They said the walls were built to protect something holy.But the truth is — they were built to keep you out.
Because you co [...]
Soul Train: Where art became cross-cultural language
Soul Train. Soullll Train. The hippest trip in America.
 I was in front of my television nearly every Saturday morning and pouted when I couldn't be. [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
✨ Protecting Your Aura: Setting Boundaries with Toxic People
Some people drain the life out of every room. They thrive on chaos, belittling, and control. And when you are a Survivor, you already know the cost [...]
The Missing Link in Healing Trauma: Somatic Awareness
Many Survivors carry trauma not just in memories, but in their muscles, breath, posture, and stillness. This snippet reveals how real healing be [...]
12 Reasons Lauryn Hill Deserves More Respect for Her Impact on Music (w/affirmations)
updated from March 2026
The only reason that men question Lauryn Hill's
accomplishments
is because they can't find a way
to take credit for them. [...]
They Spoke Labels. I Lived Through Fire.
✨ Affirmation ✨
They tried to pin me down with names that never belonged to me.
They whispered labels meant to wound, meant to cage.
But I rose t [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
18 Things You Didn’t Know were Invented By Black Women
Just because some people try to keep you unsung doesn’t mean your melody is lost. “Innovation is my inheritance, and I multiply it daily. [...]
Sometimes Integrity Gets You Removed: And That Doesn’t Mean You Were Wrong
🎤 Dusty Springfield was a British singer known for her soulful voice and hit songs in the 1960s. Wikipedia
đź“… Â 1964: During a tour of South Africa, sh [...]
Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange “9 to 5” for that instrumentation. Music [...]
Surviving Is Still Sacred—Even If They Clap for the Wrong Person
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
You saw them cheer.You heard the applause for the one who harmed someone.You watched them [...]
Why Harriet Tubman Gave the Gift the Freedom on Christmas Eve
Harriet Tubman helped her brothers escape at Christmas. Their master intended to sell them after Christmas but was delayed by the holi [...]
She Is AMAZING
The Forgotten Black Woman Inventor Who Changed the Lives of Women and People with Disabilities
Mary Beatrice Davidson Kenner
(1912-2006)
The Forgotten Black Woman Inventor Who Revolutionized Menstrual Pads
(article with audio)
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Lessons from Pam Grier’s Memoir for Survivors
updated from December 2024
I love it when women tell our own stories in our own words!
When Pam Grier's memoir came out...I [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Opal Lee, Who Walked Until the Nation Had to Remember
Some people wait for permission.
Opal Lee did something older, wiser, and stronger. She walked.
She walked with history in her bones a [...]
The Architecture of Change: Lessons from the Japanese “Renewal Years”
The Japanese word for menopause is kĹŤnenki (ć›´ĺą´ćśź), and the linguistic and cultural nuances behind it are quite beautiful and distinct from many Western [...]
Survivor Affirmations Inspired by The Joy Luck Club (with audio book)
There’s something sacred about The Joy Luck Club.Not just the story—but the witnessing. The layering. The quiet truths that refuse to stay buried.
Le [...]
Women Are the Source, Not the Punchline
“It is not inclusive to sit silent while people mock the beauty and humanity of women. That is not progress—it is plain old misogyny. The same misogyn [...]
ART HEALS
It’s Not About Safety. It’s About How He Used His Body.
Notice how people speak about sacrifices made for art vs. how they speak about sacrifices made for their favorite football or basketball player.....
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Selena Quintanilla: 🌿 She Brought Joy to the World. And We Will Not Ignore What Took Her.
Selena Quintanilla carried something extremely rare.
Joy that felt real.Warmth that reached people across language, culture, and place.A presence tha [...]
Cathy Hughes and The Quiet Storm: Healing on the Airwaves
“Good evening, sweetheart…”Those few words, whispered through radios across America, weren’t just an introduction—they were an invitation. An invita [...]
A Journey to Finding Our Voices Through Personal Stories (podcast/audio)
Your Survivor story has the power to heal. On this episode of We Survive Abuse, Tonya GJ Prince reveals how sharing our trut [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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