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Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
They talk about the brain tumor. The interrupted career. The songs she never got to record. The future that was cut sho [...]

7 Reasons Survivors May Want to Read Taraji P. Henson’s Around the Way Girl
Sometimes the books that stay with Survivors aren't the ones written specifically about surviving.
Sometimes they are simply somebody telling the truth about her life.
Taraji P. Henson's memoir, Around the Way Girl, was pu [...]

Angie Stone, Roberta Flack & Gwen McCrae: The Power of Their Musical Legacy
Angie Stone’s Music Pulled Us Through—And Now, She’s Gone.
Angie Stone has passed, and somehow, it still doesn’t feel real.
During one of my lowest valleys, her music became my guide, my comfort, my reassurance that I [...]

The Wishing Tree With Alfre Woodard: A Beautiful Movie About Finding Your Way Home + Full Movie
Sometimes you want a movie that doesn't demand everything from you.
Something you can put on while folding clothes, answering emails, working on a project, cooking dinner, or finally dealing with that pile of papers that has [...]

How Singing is Surprisingly Good for Your Health
There's a vocal teacher on Youtube that I love, and I wanted to share her with you. Kristel Cherelle's approach reminds me of our choir teachers back in school who had faith in our ability to sing if only we understood technique [...]

10 Lessons Women Can Take From Star Jones, Al Reynolds, and Everybody Who Had Something to Say
There was a time when Star Jones and Al Reynolds seemed to be everywhere.
The proposal came at the 2004 NBA All-Star Game. Then came the enormous wedding, the vendors, the publicity, the photographs, the commentary and eventu [...]

7 Survival Lessons From Eve: Your Life Is Allowed to Have More Than One Act
Some chapters prove you can survive. Others remind you that survival was never supposed to be the whole story.
I love Eve's music.
Let me get that out of the way because, obviously. Tambourine. Love Is Blind. Let Me Blow Y [...]

Vanessa Williams Refused to Become the Worst Thing People Said About Her
Deal with yourself as a individual, worthy of respect, and make everyone else deal with you the same way. -Nikki Giovanni
It was 1984, and Vanessa Williams was surrounded.
Only months earlier, she had made history as the f [...]

Some People Don’t Wait for Affirmation. They Give It to Themselves.
They did not wait for the world to settle the question of their worth. They kept something sacred for themselves: the authority to know who they were.
There is an old story about Diana Ross. "Call her Miss Ross."
[...]

There Are No Children Here: When Survival Makes a Child Grow Up Too Soon
In 1993, Oprah Winfrey starred in a television movie called There Are No Children Here. She played LaJoe Rivers, a Black mother raising her children in Chicago’s Henry Horner Homes, a public housing development where violence, p [...]

Survivor Affirmations: You Are Not Too Late for Your Own Life
Maybe the life you imagined for yourself was supposed to happen by now.
That is the part we don't always say out loud.
You thought you would have written the book by now. Started the business. Finished school. Traveled. Ma [...]
Steve Harvey Survived the Closed Door Because It Wasn’t His Only Door
There is something Steve Harvey has been saying lately that I think is worth hearing beyond the celebrity story.
Harvey has spoken about conflict he experienced with a powerful television executive and what he believes ha [...]

You Remember the Beat. But Do You Remember What Chubb Rock Was Saying?
I have been thinking about Chubb Rock’s “Treat ’Em Right”.
Maybe it is because I keep hearing people talk about hip-hop as though an entire generation of Black music can be summarized by the worst words anybody ever said on a [...]

Bob Mackie Set Beauty Free: Remembering a Designer Who Knew How to……
Before Bob Mackie dressed Diana Ross, Tina Turner, Cher, Dolly Parton and some of the most famous women in entertainment, Black women were already d-r-e-s-s-e-d.
Look at photographs of Black Americans from the 1920s, ’30s and [...]

Why Does He Get Angry When You’re Happy? When Your Joy Becomes a Problem in a Controlling Relationship
Inspired by.......
Why women’s laughter has long been treated as a threat | Psyche Ideas
Posted by Amy Diehl, Ph.D on X.com
There is a scene television loves to give us before a man becomes violent with a [...]

Florida A&M Marching 100: They Gave Dolly Parton Her Flowers Like Black HBCU Bands Do
A great Black marching band performance is not casual praise. It is labor as praise.
Somebody had to arrange “9 to 5” for that instrumentation. Musicians had to learn their individual parts. Sections had to rehearse until they [...]

Dance is a Weapon, a Womb, and a Journey Back to Ourselves
They tried to bury us, but they didn’t know we were seeds. And we dance where they tried to end us.”
Across time and across oceans, African peoples have danced through grief, joy, resistance, and survival. For us, dance has n [...]

Your Usefulness is Something You Give. Your Worth is Something YOU Have.
Sometimes people, even high-profile people push their fans and admirers away because THEY realize that they were performing and trying to earn love. They realize that the person that others loved wasn't the "real" them.
No, [...]
Survivor Affirmations: Solidarity is Reciprocal
Where did people get this bizarre idea that solidarity doesn't require respect and reciprocity...at a minimum?
If you are able, you definitely want to avoid allowing people to recruit you for battles and wars AND TH [...]

Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and professional boxing would make his hands famous around the world. He would defeat men [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Linda Creed: This Song is With You for the Moments You Stop Choosing Everyone Else Over Yourself (podcast/audio)
People make the world go round.... lyrics by Linda Creed
All these issues people are having with the humane practice of DEI (dive [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
An Affirmation for Growing Beyond the Outer Markers
I am growing beyond symbols.
Beyond badges, titles, memberships, and borrowed names.
What once helped me find my footing no longer defines my [...]
🎵 Everyday People: A Prayer for Boundaries and Belonging
“I am everyday people…”
Simple words, sacred meaning.
Arrested Development’s “People Everyday” is more than a remix of a classic — it’s a less [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
🖤 Affirmations for Black Girls Who Had to Be Strong Too Soon
Let this be your softness. Your sanctuary. Your yes.
I was never supposed to carry all that weight—but I did. And I honor the girl who survived [...]
Beyond Survival: Claiming Your Healed Identity After Abuse (podcast/audio)
This episode of We Survive Abuse isn't just about surviving; it's about *thriving*.
After navigating the challenging path to recover [...]

Elizabeth Packard: The Woman They Called Insane Until She Changed the Law
Elizabeth Packard was not simply a “wronged wife.”
She was a mother. A thinker. A religious dissenter. A wife under the rule of a husband who belie [...]
✨ Your Safety Is Sacred. Your Wellness Is Non-Negotiable. ✨
You are allowed to ignore every voice, every post, every pressure that tries to convince you to center the comfort of people who have never once cen [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
🌍 The Sacred Right to Take Up Space
You were not created to be small.You were not born to be a whisper in someone else’s legacy.You are not furniture in someone else's story —You are the [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 1)
Updated for 2025
🌿 For the Survivor’s Journey
1. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”
2. “You alone are eno [...]
Tackle Life Tips: Decluttering Strategies (short ebook)
For some people who are healing from physical and/or emotional trauma, de-cluttering is a constant challenge.
Here are 4 Quick Tips That May Hel [...]
Why You Can’t Just ‘Get Over’ Trauma: The Science Behind Healing
Mute, Block, and Ignore.....
"Get over it."
"That was so long ago"
"How long do we have to hear about this?"
"Can't you just forgive?"
"Can [...]
Soul Train: Where art became cross-cultural language
Soul Train. Soullll Train. The hippest trip in America.
I was in front of my television nearly every Saturday morning and pouted when I couldn't be. [...]
She Is AMAZING
Survivor Affirmations: Actually, I CAN and I WILL (podcast short)
Building on the true story of the United States' first elected woman mayor, Susanna Salter, this short episode inspires listeners to believe t [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
After being blacklisted in the United States in 1968, Eartha Kitt had several choices. She chose to find new doors and soar.
[...]
18 Things You Didn’t Know were Invented By Black Women
Just because some people try to keep you unsung doesn’t mean your melody is lost. “Innovation is my inheritance, and I multiply it daily. [...]
Selena Quintanilla: 🌿 She Brought Joy to the World. And We Will Not Ignore What Took Her.
Selena Quintanilla carried something extremely rare.
Joy that felt real.Warmth that reached people across language, culture, and place.A presence tha [...]
Denise Ho: 🌿Once You See It, You Can’t Go Back
“The greatest gift in this life is always more of me—and I am not going back to less.”
Denise Ho was a singer.
A successful one.
She had:
[...]
ART HEALS
🌺 Frida Kahlo: She Lived in a Body That Hurt—and Still Created Beauty
For a long time I celebrated Frida's art and had no idea she lived in pain. I was truly spellbound by the art. As a young person, I thought the art w [...]
WE Gotta Learn to Give People Care, Respect, and Love Before They are Gone (w/video)
We can be so cruel to one another.
We are the reason that we hide from one another and turn away from each other.
When the mother of his firs [...]
Black Music Month, Bay Leaves, and the Pages That Hold Our Stories
Some traditions are loud.
A choir lifting a song.
A drum carrying memory across generations.
A family reunion filled with laughter.
Other trad [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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