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After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Lessons from The Wedding: The Kind of Love That Looks Goodβand Still Costs You
Another televised Oprah production. She doesn't appear in this film, but if you are a fan of the wonderful series Greenleaf, you w [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youβve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakβLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
They Went to a Jamaica Retreat Before a Hurricane and Found Belonging
I am a fan of how people from the African diaspora give love and how we embrace others.Β
There are seasons when life feels like a storm that just won [...]
π The Sacred Right to Take Up Space
You were not created to be small.You were not born to be a whisper in someone elseβs legacy.You are not furniture in someone else's story βYou are the [...]
β‘They Misjudged YouβBut You Didnβt Disappear
You know whatβs wild?
They thought that breaking you would end the story.They thought silence meant defeat.They mistook your stillness for surrender. [...]
πΏ Dear Woman Who is Letting Herself Rest Without Earning It
The way you pauseβhalf ready to sit down, half ready to keep moving,still listening for some unseen judge to tell you itβs okay to stop.
The guilt th [...]
Survivor Affirmations: History Remembers What is Rooted in Truth, Love, and Dignity.
American fashion icon Dapper Dan shares the history of the Adinkra symbol 'Sankofa' in Harlem, New York (& other places around the United St [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
π The Sacred Right to Take Up Space
You were not created to be small.You were not born to be a whisper in someone elseβs legacy.You are not furniture in someone else's story βYou are the [...]
Sheila Johnson: When the Path Changes, I Do Not ShrinkβI Reimagine
I am not limited by what did not work.I am expanded by what I now know.I dream againβand this time, I dream with power.
There are women who succeed.
[...]

10 Facts About Lift Every Voice and SING!
So my childhood was spent learning this song. We sang this and other songs like it for assemblies. I get out into the world and learn not only have ot [...]
You Didnβt Ask to Be the Mirror
β¦ [SurvivorAffirmations.com] β¦
Dear Survivor,
You didnβt ask to be the mirror.But here you areβliving, healing, choosing joy.And without even tryi [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
Strong Self-Compassion for Women
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When You Stop Feeling Like You Have to Keep Proving Yourself
Lauryn Hill was awarded the BET Icon Award, and some are still saying that she didn't do enough. "It was just one album."
That framing leaves out a l [...]
Reclaiming Strength: What Yoga Teaches Survivors About Power
Yoga isnβt about bending your body into impossible shapes.Itβs about remembering that your body is yours β capable, responsive, sacred.
People someti [...]
How to Embrace Your Imperfections and Still Believe in Your Worth
πΏ A healing reminder for Survivors learning that they donβt have to be perfect to be powerful.
If youβre a Survivor, chances are you were taughtβdire [...]
Mood Book: Thy Name is Serwa (eBook of Quotes)
Mood Book: Serwa
Mood Bood Serwa by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
Speak Woman Speak (audio)
Reminding women that our voices are powerful and deserve to be heard. (2022)
Speak Woman Speak (audio): WESurviveAbuse.com encour [...]
She Is AMAZING
π Dear Strong Black Girl
Who had to grow up before she was ready.
You were praised for how grown you acted.For how well you held things together.For how much you helped, how [...]
Denise Oliver-Velez: May the Ancestors Welcome a Warrior Home
She was connection. Connection to history. Connection to power. ConnectionΒ to love. Connection to belonging. Connection to power.
Some lives become [...]
Quotes from Harlem Renaissance Author Nella Larsen
β¨ Nella Larsen was one of the most brilliant yet often overlooked voices of the Harlem Renaissance. Born in 1891 to a Danish mother and a West [...]
Mama I Love You: Women Are Amazing, Unique, and Special!
Tyron Woodleyβs mother congratulates Kamaru Usman at UFC 235
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"It's all good, baby. It's all good. It's your turn. It [...]
VΓ΅ Thα» SΓ‘u: πΏShe Was Young. And Stillβ¦ She Stood.
βI was never too young to see clearlyβand I honor the strength that rose in me anyway.β
VΓ΅ Thα» SΓ‘uΒ was a girl.
Not grown.Not protected.Not given tim [...]
ART HEALS
BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities h [...]
REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the l [...]
πΏ Josephine Baker: She Found a Place Where She Could Breathe
JosΓ©phine BakerΒ did not just βmove to France.β
She left a place that constrained herβ¦and stepped into a place that, for a time, allowed her to expand [...]
Lessons from The Wedding: The Kind of Love That Looks Goodβand Still Costs You
Another televised Oprah production. She doesn't appear in this film, but if you are a fan of the wonderful series Greenleaf, you will definitely note [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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