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10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way) w/ Affirmations
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way)
If you want to step away from the digital noise and tap into that grounded, authentic energy of the analog era, try these ten real-world practices:
1. Curate an Intentional [...]

The Phenomenal Phyllis Hyman, Institutional Betrayal, and Affirmations for Your Own Battles
Sometimes it isn't 'imposter syndrome.' Sometimes institutions just want you to be something that you are not because it is easier for them. But is it easier for you?
The Life & Voice of Phyllis Hyman
Phyllis Linda [...]
The Architecture of Sound & Soul: Celebrating Marlena Shaw This Black Music Month
When we talk about the giants of Black music, certain household names instantly clear the room. But there is a specific, sacred tier of artistry occupied by women who did not just sing music—they anchored it. They gave it gravit [...]
India.Arie Sings “I Am Light”: Plus 10 of Her Affirmations
"I Am Light" — India.Arie
The Vibe: A holy, minimalist prayer. Stripped down to just acoustic guitar and vocals, you are not your pieces—you are divine light.
India.Arie is something rare for today. A consistent, radia [...]
10 Times Black Artists Forced Innovation to Find Its Soul
The Architecture of Innovation
Black music has never merely adapted to the future—it has constructed it.
When we celebrate Black Music Month, it is easy to look backward with nostalgia, romanticizing a history of raw talent an [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Chaka Khan, Bold Enough to Remain Herself
Chaka Khan has never moved through the world like a woman asking to be watered down.
Her voice has heat in it. Fire. Velvet. Thunder. A little church, a little street, a little cosmic storm. She sings like somebody who knows [...]
Black Music Month, Bay Leaves, and the Pages That Hold Our Stories
Some traditions are loud.
A choir lifting a song.
A drum carrying memory across generations.
A family reunion filled with laughter.
Other traditions are quiet.
A woman sitting at her kitchen table before sunrise.
A n [...]
Seeking Care Safely After Harm: Language for Survivors and Providers
Many Survivors have told me some version of this:
"I knew something felt wrong. I just didn't know what to call it."
That is more common than people realize.
You do not need perfect words to deserve help.
You [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Patti LaBelle, the Beautiful Assertion
Before the world knew her as Patti LaBelle, she was Patricia Louise Holte, a girl from Philadelphia with a voice that could rise from the church floor and shake the rafters loose.
Then came the name: LaBelle.
Beautiful.
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Survivor Affirmation: For Opal Lee, Who Walked Until the Nation Had to Remember
Some people wait for permission.
Opal Lee did something older, wiser, and stronger. She walked.
She walked with history in her bones and freedom in her feet. She walked for Juneteenth when many people treated it [...]
Black Classics Reading List Created by Chelsea Yvonne
In the spirit of Juneteenth, free your mind!
These Black literary classics are worth a read or re-read.
Gratitude to Chelsea Yvonne for compiling this list of all-time greats.
🌤️ Clarity After Chaos [...]

Hidden Black Film Herstory: Stompin at the Savoy | Directed by Debbie Allen
Sometimes Black women’s films are praised for being “nice,” “nostalgic,” or “beloved,” while the craft gets undercounted. Stompin’ at the Savoy was not just charming. It was skilled. It was layered. It had emotional architecture [...]

For the Hate Crimes Prevention Act: Affirmations for Black People Carrying Too Much Hate from Too Many Directions
racism chases us down for miles.....
On this day, the anniversary of The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act which was signed into law by President Barack Obama on October 28, 2009. It expanded fede [...]
Emotional Bandwidth: Why You Sometimes Can’t Be There for People You Love | Dr. Tracey Marks
Emotional bandwidth explained: why cognitive load and stress make empathy harder, and why low bandwidth looks like emotional unavailability in relationships. Take my FREE 3-min Brain Quiz to master focus & [...]

A Juneteenth Reflection for SurvivorAffirmations: Not a Bill. A Bridge.
Some of us grew up hearing about sacrifice in ways that hurt.
“I did everything for you.”
“After all I gave up.”
“You owe me.”
Those words can land heavy in the body when love has been tied to guilt. Survivor [...]

10 Facts About Lift Every Voice and SING!
So my childhood was spent learning this song. We sang this and other songs like it for assemblies. I get out into the world and learn not only have others not heard the song but they see it as "hateful"?
Me: But you don't kn [...]

There Are Souls Beyond the Scoreboard: A History Lesson in Hope, Radio, and Second Wind (podcast episode)
We are not living in the time of afterschool specials, radio dedications, and songs that reached through the static to touch a hurting child’s heart.
So sometimes we have to borrow from the past.
We have to go back to song [...]

Before You Yell “Cocaine,” Learn What 1980s Black Joy Looked Like
The adults around us didn't even have "McDonald's money" when cheeseburgers were four for a dollar. How do you figure everyone had "cocaine money?"
I get it. You see the far less expensive gas, housing prices, and food prices [...]

Dr. Tracey Marks: People Who Drain You vs. People Who Energize You
Why do some people calm your brain while others drain it? One of our favorite psychiatrists, Dr. Tracey Marks, explains how your nervous system regulates with safe people—plus a simple body check.
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What “Find 100 Ways” Teaches Us About Uplifting the People We Love
There are some songs that do not simply play.
They enter the room.
They adjust the light.
They sit beside you with a kind of grown tenderness and remind you that love was never supposed to feel careless.
James Ingram [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
🌺 The Sacred Right to Be Seen, Loud, and Whole
There is a world that fears your full presence.Not just your voice — but your volume.Not just your story — but your entire truth.N [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
🌼 10 Signs You’re Healing—Even If It Doesn’t Feel Like It
A love note to the Survivor who’s doing the hard work of rising, even when it doesn’t look or feel perfect.
Healing doesn’t always look the way we [...]
🎵 Tennessee: A Prayer for the Weary Soul
“Lord, I’ve really been real stressed, down and out, losin’ ground…”
Those first words from Arrested Development’s “Tennessee” still feel like pr [...]
The Harlem Photos That Were Hidden for 40 Years
These photos are evidence of resilience.
In 1970, New York City was officially collapsing. The media called it "Fear City." But while the world saw [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
💔 When Healing Hurts (And It Will, More Than Once)
For the Survivor who wonders why healing feels heavy, not light.
Nobody tells you this part:
Healing doesn’t always feel like relief.Somet [...]

🌿 Dear Woman Who is Learning to Say No Without Explaining
I see the weight you carry when you even think about saying no.The hesitation.The catch in your breath.The flood of reasons rising in your chest, read [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
How the Dog Got Angry…and Maybe We Should Too.
Nature is my favorite instructor. We do not need to accept crumbs. We have every right to get angry in the face of unfairness and inju [...]
Affirmations for Cutting Through the “Devil” Dodge
Here is a set of affirmations designed to cut through the "smoke and mirrors" of redirected blame. These are meant to ground you when someone tries to [...]
The Truth About Family Outsiders (video)
From gogetterswantd on Tiktok.com:
The truth about family outsiders is..
They’re the ones that can see the wounds that the family ignores.
Th [...]
Survivor Affirmations: You Can Heal Through the Chaos
1️⃣ "I am resilient, and even in the midst of chaos, I find my inner peace."
2️⃣ "Every challenge I face is shaping me into a stronger, w [...]
For the One Who Feels Ashamed of How She Survived
Some of us look back on how we coped, and the shame rushes in.
You didn’t tell.You froze.You smiled through it.You went back.You blamed yourself.You [...]
From History to Present: Self-Care Through Yoga in the Black Community
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She Is AMAZING
The Power of Music: Candi Staton’s Anthem
This is one of my favorite songs from girlhood. I LOVE the tone in her voice and listen to her song catalog regularly. She is soulful.&nbs [...]
Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
Linda Creed: This Song is With You for the Moments You Stop Choosing Everyone Else Over Yourself (podcast/audio)
People make the world go round.... lyrics by Linda Creed
All these issues people are having with the humane practice of DEI (diversity, equity, and i [...]
Why Harriet Tubman Gave the Gift the Freedom on Christmas Eve
Harriet Tubman helped her brothers escape at Christmas. Their master intended to sell them after Christmas but was delayed by the holi [...]
Selena Quintanilla: 🌿 She Brought Joy to the World. And We Will Not Ignore What Took Her.
Selena Quintanilla carried something extremely rare.
Joy that felt real.Warmth that reached people across language, culture, and place.A presence tha [...]
Big Mama Thornton: I Stand Up for Myself As Long As I Can
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ART HEALS
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
🌟 Resilience & Strength
“You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
Before You Yell “Cocaine,” Learn What 1980s Black Joy Looked Like
The adults around us didn't even have "McDonald's money" when cheeseburgers were four for a dollar. How do you figure everyone had "cocaine money?"
[...]
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way) w/ Affirmations
10 Ways to Reconnect with Yourself (The 1980s Way)
If you want to step away from the digital noise and tap into that grounded, authentic energy of th [...]
🌸 Groovy Affirmations: Becoming Beautiful to Myself, for Myself
The more I become myself, the more I become art.
I create my own rhythm of beauty—no mirrors required.
My reflection is a remix of every less [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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