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Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]

A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black television history:Β Black men being shown as steady, present, humorous, loving, a [...]
SurvivorAffirmations: Peace and Safety Are Sacred Gardens
To grow up with people who gardened and made preserves was to know that things of nature require protection and care. GenX played outside a lot, but we also knew where not to play. Where not to play kickball: Because if the ball [...]
Denise Oliver-Velez: May the Ancestors Welcome a Warrior Home
She was connection. Connection to history. Connection to power. ConnectionΒ to love. Connection to belonging. Connection to power.
Some lives become history books long before they become memorials
Denise Oliver-Velez leaves be [...]
Sometimes Your Haters Are Your Unpaid Strength Coaches
Angel went straight to the source at the end of the game π
I smiled when I saw Angel Reese acknowledge people who had been heckling her from the sidelines after the game. Whether someone loved the moment or hated it, I re [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
HEALING JOURNEY
Wise Words from Dr. ShantaQuilette Develle MBA, PhD CFE, EA, CPLC
Is this wise advice or what?! She laid this out plain.
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An Affirmation for Growing Beyond the Outer Markers
I am growing beyond symbols.
Beyond badges, titles, memberships, and borrowed names.
What once helped me find my footing no longer defines my [...]
π€ Affirmations for Black Girls Who Had to Be Strong Too Soon
Let this be your softness. Your sanctuary. Your yes.
I was never supposed to carry all that weightβbut I did. And I honor the girl who survived [...]
The Empty Nest is a Healing Space
The empty nest is not the end of motherhood.
It may be the beginning of a womanβs re-encounter with herself.
Not just a quiet house.
Not just βthe [...]
How Survivors Intentionally Silence Self-Doubt
Self-doubt can be sneaky, but it doesnβt have to control your life. Hereβs how you can silence it and step into your power:
1. Challenge the Nega [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE

A Life Well Played: The Legacy of Hal Williams
clip originally shared by @DjCobreezy on X.com
What stands out to me about Hal Williams is that he represented something important in Black tel [...]
“Why do peopleβs opinions hit me so hard?β β Learning not to internalize ignorance.
Let them think whatever they want.
Let them run circles in their own heads.
Let them name you, misname you,
draw their crooked sketches of who you [...]

Itβs Not About Safety. Itβs About How He Used His Body.
Notice how people speak about sacrifices made for art vs. how they speak about sacrifices made for their favorite football or basketball player.....
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HEALTHING JOURNEY
The Power of Music: Candi Staton’s Anthem
This is one of my favorite songs from girlhood. I LOVE the tone in her voice and listen to her song catalog regularly. She is soulful.&nbs [...]
Surviving Is Still SacredβEven If They Clap for the Wrong Person
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
You saw them cheer.You heard the applause for the one who harmed someone.You watched them [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
When an American presidential administration attempted to blacklist and silence Eartha Kitt, she simply took her talents and skills overseas where [...]
25 Survival Foods of Slaves on Plantations
βI do not wait for permission to createβI design, I build, I transform.β
βEvery problem I face carries within it the blueprint of my bril [...]
12 Free eBooks to Support Your Somatic Healing Journey
Dear Survivor,
They are playing in your face by making you explain. And explain. And explain. Forget them.
All these folks running around protecti [...]
She Is AMAZING
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
When an American presidential administration attempted to blacklist and silence Eartha Kitt, she simply took her talents and skills overseas where [...]
10 Inspiring Quotes from Survivor Queen Latifah
The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respec [...]
Helen Baylor’s Testimony| I Had a Praying Grandmother
Helen Baylorβs gospel classic βA Praying Grandmotherβ is more than a personal testimonyβitβs a spiritual archive for many Black families. It speaks to [...]
πΊ You Are the Proof β Not the Problem
They said you were the problem.Too loud. Too soft. Too different. Too much.But the truth is, you were only ever too real for a world addicted to pre [...]
SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could b [...]
Inspired by Survivor Viola Davis: You Donβt Need Perfect Weather to Bloom
Some flowers wait for sunshine.Others learn how to grow toward the light
even while clouds remain overhead.
Gratitude to a shining star....Viola Da [...]
ART HEALS
The Harlem Photos That Were Hidden for 40 Years
These photos are evidence of resilience.
In 1970, New York City was officially collapsing. The media called it "Fear City." But while the world saw [...]
Finding Freedom Through Movement: How Dance Becomes a Healing Journey from Abuse πβ¨
So, the fabulous Eartha Kitt was a triple threat. Dancer, singer, and actor. She was also a Survivor.
By every reasonable understanding of the word,Β [...]
Selena Quintanilla: πΏ She Brought Joy to the World. And We Will Not Ignore What Took Her.
Selena Quintanilla carried something extremely rare.
Joy that felt real.Warmth that reached people across language, culture, and place.A presence tha [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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