Why Are Women Expected to Compromise Their Safety?
Mistreatment can teach us the wrong lessons. It can teach women to question our instincts, ignore our discomfort, and mistake surrendering our boundaries for kindness, fairness, or compassion.
For example, a woman may say, "I [...]
I Donât Have to Explain the Boundaries That Keep Me Safe
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Youâve explained enough.
Why you stayed. Why you left.Why you didnât speak sooner. Why you did.Why you flinched. Why you disappeared. Why you blocked them.
Now they wa [...]
Are You Still Protecting People Who Never Protected You? 5 Powerful Questions to Break the Cycle
These affirmations are written with tenderness, truth, and a deep honoring of those who carry the ache of being raised by parents who did not do their bestânot because they couldnât, but because they wouldnât. These are for the [...]

Grief Comes Back Again and Again. So Can Love.
How remembrance, music, and personal tributes can help us live with loss
There is something especially beautiful about the hip-hop classic They Reminisce Over You (T.R.O.Y.) by Pete Rock & CL Smooth. Released in 1992, the [...]
Inspired by Gil Scott-Heron: 10 Affirmations on Deserving Respect for Survivors
Gil Scott-Heron: A Man Who Understood That Respect Begins With Recognizing Humanity
Gil Scott-Heron (1949â2011) was an American poet, musician, author, and social commentator who understood that respect was about far more than [...]

Behind the Wall by Tracy Chapman: When a Woman’s Cries for Help Are Heard, but Help Never Comes
Some songs stay with us because they are beautiful. Others stay with us because they tell a truth that society has spent generations trying not to hear.
In 1988, Tracy Chapman released a song called âBehind the Wallâ on her s [...]

Before âI Am Womanâ Became an Anthem, Women Were Fighting to Be Heard: The Story Behind Helen Reddy’s Song
The history behind Helen Reddy's 1972 anthem, the rights women were fighting for, and what her story can teach Survivors about independence, solidarity, and finding their voices.
In 1972, Australian singer Helen Reddy release [...]
Who Did You Have to Become to Survive? A Gentle Introduction to Jungian Self-Reflection for Survivors
Exploring the parts of ourselves we learned to hide, the roles we learned to play, and the freedom to discover who we are today.
Sometimes we become so accustomed to being a certain kind of person that we forget we had other [...]
đ Black Sitcom Halloween Episodes: The Ultimate Watchlist for a Cozy Night In or a Watch Party With Friends
From Martin and Living Single to Girlfriends, Family Matters, Abbott Elementary, and more.
There is something special about revisiting the television shows that made us laugh growing up. The familiar theme songs, the characte [...]

Because They Refused Jim Crow, We Walk Through Different Doors
October 7, 1955: Ella Fitzgerald Arrested After Performing Before an Integrated Audience in Houston
We live inside freedoms that somebody else had to be brave enough to imagine. I am grateful for the people who challenged Jim C [...]

10 Surprising Lessons for Survivors from Gloria Gaynorâs I Will Survive
When most of us hear Gloria Gaynor sing âI Will Survive,â we hear certainty.
We hear a woman who has figured something out. She sounds like she knows where the door is, knows she deserves better and knows she can live without [...]

10 Lessons from The Forever Tree for Black Women, Girls, and Survivors Who Have Learned to Play Small
There is something quietly radical about The Forever Tree.
Tawny Bennett, played by Olivia Washington, is a young Black woman living during the Harlem Renaissance. She is intelligent, knowledgeable and working as an antiquari [...]
10 Lessons for Survivors from Sandy âPepaâ Dentonâs Letâs Talk About Pep
Sandy âPepaâ Denton is known to millions as one of the women who helped change hip-hop. But Letâs Talk About Pep tells another story underneath the records, performances, fame, laughter, relationships and celebrity encounters. D [...]

Tammi Terrell’s Story Reminds Us That Survival Is More Than Staying Alive
When people speak about Tammi Terrell, they often begin with how young she was when she died.
Twenty-four.
They talk about the brain tumor. The interrupted career. The songs she never got to record. The future that was cut sho [...]

7 Reasons Survivors May Want to Read Taraji P. Hensonâs Around the Way Girl
Sometimes the books that stay with Survivors aren't the ones written specifically about surviving.
Sometimes they are simply somebody telling the truth about her life.
Taraji P. Henson's memoir, Around the Way Girl, was pu [...]

Angie Stone, Roberta Flack & Gwen McCrae: The Power of Their Musical Legacy
Angie Stoneâs Music Pulled Us ThroughâAnd Now, Sheâs Gone.
Angie Stone has passed, and somehow, it still doesnât feel real.
During one of my lowest valleys, her music became my guide, my comfort, my reassurance that I [...]

The Wishing Tree With Alfre Woodard: A Beautiful Movie About Finding Your Way Home + Full Movie
Sometimes you want a movie that doesn't demand everything from you.
Something you can put on while folding clothes, answering emails, working on a project, cooking dinner, or finally dealing with that pile of papers that has [...]

How Singing is Surprisingly Good for Your Health
There's a vocal teacher on Youtube that I love, and I wanted to share her with you. Kristel Cherelle's approach reminds me of our choir teachers back in school who had faith in our ability to sing if only we understood technique [...]

10 Lessons Women Can Take From Star Jones, Al Reynolds, and Everybody Who Had Something to Say
There was a time when Star Jones and Al Reynolds seemed to be everywhere.
The proposal came at the 2004 NBA All-Star Game. Then came the enormous wedding, the vendors, the publicity, the photographs, the commentary and eventu [...]

7 Survival Lessons From Eve: Your Life Is Allowed to Have More Than One Act
Some chapters prove you can survive. Others remind you that survival was never supposed to be the whole story.
I love Eve's music.
Let me get that out of the way because, obviously. Tambourine. Love Is Blind. Let Me Blow Y [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
Survivor Affirmations: You Are Not Too Late for Your Own Life
Maybe the life you imagined for yourself was supposed to happen by now.
That is the part we don't always say out loud.
You t [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
Sugar Ray Leonard Knew How to Fight. That Did Not Mean He Held the Power
Sugar Ray Leonard knew how to fight. By his early twenties, the quiet kid from Palmer Park, Maryland, had become an Olympic gold medalist, and profess [...]
Their Words Do Not Name Me. Survival Does.
âš Affirmation âš
Their words tried to cling to me like chains,
but I shook them off.
Their judgments do not define me.
Their names do not name me [...]
What I Survived Speaks Louder Than What They Say
âš Affirmation âš
What they say is fleetingârumors, whispers, labels.But what I survived is eternalâit beats like a drum in my spirit.My scars sing lou [...]
9 Quotes from Maya Angelou to Nourish the Survivor’s Soul (Part 2)
Updated for 2025
đ Resilience & Strength
âYou may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced [...]
PBS Newshour: A Brief But Spectacular take on living like we’re dying
To love deeply is to live joyfully.
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CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
đïž Survivor Affirmations Post: âI Am Not Here to Carry What Broke Meâ
A release for the Survivor who is ready to set the weight down.
There was a time when I thought it was my job to hold it all.
Hold the pai [...]

Youâre Not Healing to Be LikedâYouâre Healing to Be Free
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Dear Survivor,
This healing path you're on?Itâs not about gaining approval.Itâs not about being nice or easy to und [...]
Healing Words: Women with Controlling Partners by Carol A. Lambert, MSW
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To leave an abusive partner is complicated and challenging.Â
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Most people in this position feel highly ambivalent or just [...]

Dr. Tracey Marks: People Who Drain You vs. People Who Energize You
Why do some people calm your brain while others drain it? One of our favorite psychiatrists, Dr. Tracey Marks, explains how your nervous system regula [...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
The Story of Kemba Smith Pradia
May we continue to be reminded and never forget that women in prison (most of whom have survived painful abuse and violence) are indeed human beings.& [...]
How Survivors Intentionally Silence Self-Doubt
Self-doubt can be sneaky, but it doesnât have to control your life. Hereâs how you can silence it and step into your power:
1. Challenge the Nega [...]
Wellness Journaling Prompts: I Thrive
Wellness Journaling Prompts: I Thrive by Tonya GJ Prince [...]
Survivor Affirmations: The Beauty of Sharing Joy
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Survivor Affirmations: I Build Boundaries to Protect My Peace (audio/podcast)
Hosted by Tonya GJ Prince, this episode includes reminders for Survivors of abuse and violence to continue crafting boundaries that protect [...]
She Is AMAZING
Behind the Wall by Tracy Chapman: When a Woman’s Cries for Help Are Heard, but Help Never Comes
Some songs stay with us because they are beautiful. Others stay with us because they tell a truth that society has spent generations trying not to hea [...]
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youâve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakâLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
Different Go-Go, Same Refusal to Disappear into Misery
I just discovered something beautiful.
There are two kinds of âGoGo.â
One was born in Washington, DC.
One comes from Tanzania.
And somehow [...]
đżJosephine Baker: She Refused the Limits Placed on Her Body
Joséphine Baker was born in the United States.She knew segregation.She knew what it meant to be looked at and not seen.
So she left.
And in Paris⊠s [...]
Artist Jossie Harris Thacker: Building On Where You Come From â Without Going To War With It
Some of us were taught that âhealingâ means disowning everything that shaped us.
The accent.The neighborhood.The elders.The songs.The faith.The grit. [...]
Great Re-Inventors: Eartha Kitt #courage #changeyourlife #comeback
After being blacklisted in the United States in 1968, Eartha Kitt had several choices. She chose to find new doors and soar.
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ART HEALS
đ¶ Choose Love, Joy, Hope (w/video)
đ¶ Choose Love, Joy, Hope
Hate makes little ditties âshort, sharp, and forgettable.But joy?Joy makes songs that reach the bones.Songs that bring p [...]
10 Lessons for Survivors from Sandy âPepaâ Dentonâs Letâs Talk About Pep
Sandy âPepaâ Denton is known to millions as one of the women who helped change hip-hop. But Letâs Talk About Pep tells another story underneath the re [...]
They Went to a Jamaica Retreat Before a Hurricane and Found Belonging
I am a fan of how people from the African diaspora give love and how we embrace others.Â
There are seasons when life feels like a storm that just won [...]
Survivor Affirmation: For Chaka Khan, Bold Enough to Remain Herself
Chaka Khan has never moved through the world like a woman asking to be watered down.
Her voice has heat in it. Fire. Velvet. Thunder. A little chur [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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