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Sometimes Healing Has Four Paws: How Pets Can Help Us Through Grief.
Grief does not always announce what it needs.
Sometimes we think we need answers. Sometimes we think we need to be left alone. Sometimes we bury ourselves in work, exercise, responsibilities, television, or anything else [...]
After Jason Arday: Black People Must Be Allowed to Be Human
βThe question is not whether racism exists, but how it manifests.β Ta-Nehisi Coates
Can you make it past this phrase? I'm having a hard time doing so.
βCambridgeβs diversity poster boy.β
They called that Black man a boy. [...]

Before We Called It Therapy, Black Folks Had the Stage
There is an old kind of healing that many Black Americans know, even if nobody ever gave it a clinical name.
Some of us met it in a church basement.
Some met it underneath hot stage lights in the school auditorium.
Some [...]
Do Not Mistake a Blackout for a Lack of Black American Talent
Is "Woke" Just the Newest Word for an Old Fear? A History. - WE Survive Abuse
One unfortunate reality of anti-Black American racism specifically is periods of blackouts. Take heart with these affirmations. Keep creating your [...]

BLACK GIRL, YOUR CREATIVITY HAS TRAVELED THE WORLD ππ€
Look around.
Hair.
Fashion.
Dance.
Music.
Language.
Beauty.
Humor.
Style.
So much of what Black communities have created has traveled farther than the people who first imagined it could h [...]

SHE DIDN’T HAVE TO REPRESENT EVERY BLACK GIRL π€
This may be one of the greatest gifts of having many Black girls in our stories.
Laura could be Laura.
Ashley could be Ashley.
Moesha could be Moesha.
Tootie could be Tootie.
Rudy could be Rudy.
One girl didn't [...]

WE GREW UP WITH THEM π€
There's something tender about realizing that some of the Black girls we watched on television aren't girls anymore.
Neither are we.
Kim Fields.
Janet Jackson.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tatyana Ali.
[...]

BLACK GIRLHOOD CAME IN MORE THAN ONE SHADE π€
Look back at the Black girls many of us watched growing up.
Kim Fields.
Regina King.
Keshia Knight Pulliam.
Tempestt Bledsoe.
Kellie Shanygne Williams.
Tatyana Ali.
Brandy.
Countess Vaughn.
Reagan Gome [...]

REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the locker.
The cousin.
The neighbor.
The girl sitting beside somebody at [...]

BEFORE MOESHA: BLACK TEENAGE GIRLS HAD STORIES πΊ
Before Moesha was writing in her journal, other Black teenage girls had been growing up on our television screens.
Tootie had crushes.
Brenda was finding her way.
Vanessa was testing boundaries.
Laura was navigating [...]

THEY LET BLACK GIRLS BE LITTLE GIRLS π
There was something precious about watching Rudy Huxtable.
Olivia Kendall.
Judy Winslow.
And the little Black girls who appeared across the sitcoms many of us grew up watching.
They got to be children.
Not symbols [...]

BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
Penny on Good Times.
Tootie on The Facts of Life.
Brenda on 227.
R [...]

BLUEPRINT vs ALGORITHM: Black Sound, Black Memory, Black Authority
There is a moment when a culture starts arguing about what it already built.
Black Music Month becomes a conversation about whether our icons are βreally icons,β as if the foundation needs permission to be recognized as structu [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Resilience
"I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it." β Maya Angelou
Resilience is not the absence of hardship. It is the capacity to bend, absorb, and keep moving forward without losing the core of who [...]

Survivor Affirmations: Deep Lessons in Self-Assurance
"You alone are enough." β Maya Angelou
Self-assurance is a quiet confidence rooted in knowing who you are. It doesn't require applause, constant agreement, or performing for other people. As a Survivor, you can move through t [...]

Before the Dress Code Debate: 8 Gentle Questions to Ask Yourself If You Never Feel Like Getting Ready
Some conversations become so loud that we forget to ask the quieter questions.
Recently, there has been discussion surrounding Tuskegee University's decision regarding bonnets and durags in the classroom. People hav [...]
Affirmations for the Messy Middle of Healing (Not Linear, Not Perfect)
Somebody sold you a lie about healing. They told you it was a staircase β one clean step after another, moving you up and away from the pain until one day you'd look back and it would all be behind you.
That is not what heali [...]

Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I healed as fast as they have? Why does my life still feel so hard when theirs loo [...]
AFFIRMATIONS AND SELF LOVE
My Story Doesnβt Need Their Permission to Matter
SurvivorAffirmations.com | Inspired by WeSurviveAbuse.com
Some people will never believe youβnot because your story isnβt true, [...]
HEALING JOURNEY
The Five Forgotten Benefits of Conflict (audio)
Β If we use it right, conflict is a great tool for building stronger and healthier communities. Β Tonya GJ Prince offers five ways we tend to for [...]
Big Life Lessons That Teach Black Girls to Silence Their Pain: Um, The Hair (audio)
Are we teaching girls to ignore their pain? Are we teaching girls that their pain doesn't matter? Are we doing enough? Th [...]
Reclaim Your Confidence: 7 Quick Tips (audio)
Sometimes we lose our confidence in ourselves and others. This podcast episode will give you 7 tips to help you recover quickly. R [...]
π΅ Everyday People: A Prayer for Boundaries and Belonging
βI am everyday peopleβ¦β
Simple words, sacred meaning.
Arrested Developmentβs βPeople Everydayβ is more than a remix of a classic β itβs a less [...]
Reverend MLK Jr. Reminds Us That Comparisons Are Not the Survivor’s Friend: 10 Affirmations
Comparisons Are Not the Survivor's Friend
There's a quiet voice that shows up sometimes, usually when you're already tired. It says: why haven't I he [...]
CONFIDENCE/POWER/RESILIENCE
Survivor Affirmation: My Scars Tell a Story of Strength
If youβve ever worried that sharing your story makes you look weakβLet me remind you what your story really says:
Something struck me.Something t [...]
You Do Not Have to Keep Company with Those Who Only See Shadows
You do not have to keep company
with people who are incapable of sharing light.
Some folks walk into the room
and instead of lifting the load,
t [...]

Affirming: Protect Your Power from Self-Doubt Seed Planters
This week, I wish you success in distancing yourself from people who plant self-doubt in women and girls. Many female Survivors from variou [...]

Denise Ho: πΏOnce You See It, You Canβt Go Back
βThe greatest gift in this life is always more of meβand I am not going back to less.β
Denise HoΒ was a singer.
A successful one.
She had:
[...]
HEALTHING JOURNEY
πΊ Survivor Affirmations Post: βI Donβt Exist to Be Understood by Those Who Harmed Meβ
A reminder for the Survivor whoβs ready to stop explaining her healing.
I used to spend my energy trying to be understood.Trying to soften [...]
Keep the Faith for Better Dayz: Healing Affirmations for the Weary Heart (video by Kirby)
Affirmations for Better Dayz inspired by the insanely beautiful and talented Kirby!
I am walking past the haze of yesterday and stepping into t [...]
Affirmations to Empower Women to Advocate for Good Health
Acknowledging that the key to every womanβs survival is
safety and good health; we do hereby implore all women, to advocate for
themselves when in [...]
Finding Your Anchor: How to Prioritize What Matters in Times of Chaos
Man speaks out after climbing 19-story building during fire looking for his mother
In times of uncertainty, it is easy to feel pulled in [...]
She Is AMAZING
The Architecture of Change: Lessons from the Japanese “Renewal Years”
The Japanese word for menopause is kΕnenki (ζ΄εΉ΄ζ), and the linguistic and cultural nuances behind it are quite beautiful and distinct from many Western [...]
Survivor Affirmations: I Tend My Own Light (w video)
We might not be able to be friends and that's okay.
β’ Part of my healing is recognizing that not every person deserves access to my spiri [...]
BLACK GIRLS WE GREW UP WITH πΊπ€
Before many of us knew the word βrepresentation,β we knew the feeling.
We knew what it meant to turn on the television and see a Black girl there.
[...]
Finding Freedom Through Movement: How Dance Becomes a Healing Journey from Abuse πβ¨
So, the fabulous Eartha Kitt was a triple threat. Dancer, singer, and actor. She was also a Survivor.
By every reasonable understanding of the word,Β [...]
REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the l [...]
Survivor Spotlight: Lisa Hansen
CEO of Power Over Predators Lisa Hansen [...]
ART HEALS
They Went to a Jamaica Retreat Before a Hurricane and Found Belonging
I am a fan of how people from the African diaspora give love and how we embrace others.Β
There are seasons when life feels like a storm that just won [...]
REMEMBER THE BLACK GIRL BEST FRIENDS? π
Not every Black girl on television was the star.
Some were the friend who walked through the front door without knocking.
The classmate at the l [...]
The Black Performance Genius Behind Americaβs βIconicβ Jazz Style
I like Bob Fosse too. He was a brilliant dancer and choreographer. But his style is heavily influenced by Black dancers. You can't even put too mu [...]
JOURNALING/WRITING IN A HEALTHIER WORLD
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