Carol-Lambert.comTo leave an abusive partner is complicated and challenging. Most people in this position feel highly ambivalent or just stuck.Ca
To leave an abusive partner is complicated and challenging.
Most people in this position feel highly ambivalent or just stuck.
Carol A. Lambert, MSW
Common examples of coercive behavior are
•Isolating you from friends and family
•Depriving you of basic needs, such as food
•Monitoring your time
•Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware
-Women’s Aid
“Women with controlling partners don’t merely suffer blows to their self-esteem and confidence; they also gradually and insidiously lose their sense of who they are. “
Craig Malkin, PhD, Harvard Medical School
When you live with someone who is psychologically abusive, it’s just not possible to feel well or to be at your best because you’re at very high risk for a multitude of health issues, including post-traumatic stress disorder.
Any woman who has ever experienced coercive control from a coworker, friend, or loved one can tell you that the effects are overwhelming.
Intimate partner abuse → The abuser may use threats, violence, or controlling behavior to keep the victim afraid.
This fear can permeate the entire home.
Intimate partner abuse, mostly psychological in nature, serves the perpetrator in overpowering their partner.
The perpetrator externalizes responsibility for the abuse. The survivor develops self-blame for the conflicts.
Someone suffering from coercive control may not realize the cause is abuse from an intimate partner.
Emotional abuse can be harder to identify since no one else can necessarily “see” its effects like they can a bruise, cut, or a scar.
-Safe Horizon
Consent is a fundamental right.
It’s not just about saying “no,” but about listening and respecting each other’s boundaries.
Everyone needs to feel safe and heard.
Abuse, harassment, manipulation, and victimization know no boundaries, and these unwanted acts take place both at home and in the workplace.
Abusive Relationships: Abusive Men
How do women like you find out if they need help with a controlling partner?
Do you feel controlled by your partner?
Do you feel afraid?
Carol A. Lambert helps you to get clear about your experience with an intimate partner, whether a boyfriend, girlfriend, or spouse. Become informed about controlling relationships and work through the recovery process.
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An estimated one in four women (23% or 2.2 million) have experienced partner emotional abuse since the age of 15, including: 6.1% (575,400) by a current partner. 18% (1.7 million) by a previous partner.
-ABS.gov
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