Not everyone who walks with you is truly walking for you. Some people clap when you’re down and grow silent when you rise. Here are signs to watch for
Not everyone who walks with you is truly walking for you. Some people clap when you’re down and grow silent when you rise. Here are signs to watch for when someone in your circle may not want the best for you.
1. They Downplay Your Success
Instead of celebrating, they make excuses for why your progress doesn’t matter.
2. They Only Show Up for Your Struggles
They’re right there for the drama — but nowhere to be found when things are finally going well.
3. Their Advice Keeps You Small
Every suggestion seems to steer you toward fear, doubt, or inaction.
4. They Compete in Secret
Your wins make them restless. Your growth feels like a threat.
5. They Never Say They’re Proud of You
Simple words of affirmation are absent — even when you know you’ve overcome something big.
6. They Gossip About You
They share your struggles with others, not to help, but to feed a story.
7. They Sabotage Opportunities
They “forget” to tell you about a chance, leave you out of the loop, or create distractions right when you need focus.
8. They Minimize Your Healing
They dismiss your growth with phrases like: “It’s not that serious” or “You’re still the same.”
9. They’re Uncomfortable With Your Boundaries
When you say no or protect your energy, they push back — because your strength disrupts their control.
10. You Feel It in Your Spirit
Sometimes your body and intuition sense it long before your mind accepts it. Pay attention to that tightening in your chest or that heaviness after being with them.
Affirmation for This Moment
“I am worthy of relationships where love, respect, and growth flow freely. I release the grip of those who do not want the best for me.”