🖤 Survivor Affirmations: “I Am the First Safe Place I’ve Ever Known”

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These affirmations are for the Survivor who has had to become her own safety, her own sanctuary, her own rescue.

These words are not about pretending the harm didn’t happen.

• No one showed me how—but I became safety. I became sanctuary. I became mine.

• I protect my peace like a sacred flame. What harms me can no longer live here.

• I no longer wait for others to make me feel safe. I do that for myself now—with fierce love and gentle hands.

• When I breathe deeply, when I set boundaries, when I say no—I am building my own safe place.

• I don’t have to earn rest, tenderness, or love. In my presence, I am always welcome.

• I am allowed to stop surviving and start living. My nervous system deserves peace.

• I don’t shrink to make others feel powerful anymore. I don’t tolerate what wounds me.

• I am no longer a hiding place for secrets, shame, or sorrow. I am a home where truth can breathe.

• Even on hard days, I show up for myself. Even when I’m scared, I listen with care.

• I keep promises to myself now. I choose me—fully, deeply, and unapologetically.

• What I never received, I now offer myself. Love. Belief. Forgiveness. Safety.

• I am the first safe place I’ve ever known—and I will never abandon myself again.

You weren’t supposed to have to do it alone.
But you did.
You built trust where betrayal lived.
You planted peace where chaos tried to grow roots.
You became the one person you could rely on—and that is something sacred.

You are not too late to be held.
You are not too difficult to be loved.
You are not too broken to be home to yourself.

You are the place where healing happens.
Where softness lives.
Where truth is safe to speak.

You are the first safe place you’ve ever known.