The phrase “I will not shrink myself to fit your comfort” is a declaration of bodily, emotional, and spiritual autonomy. In the context of consent and
The phrase “I will not shrink myself to fit your comfort” is a declaration of bodily, emotional, and spiritual autonomy. In the context of consent and coercion, it means:
✊🏾 I will not silence my voice, mute my boundaries, or minimize my truth just to make others feel unthreatened, unchallenged, or in control.
It pushes back against the deeply embedded message that girls and women—especially Black women—must make themselves smaller to survive, to be loved, or to stay safe.
It’s a bold refusal to accept manipulation, pressure, or guilt-tripping as a normal part of love, sex, relationships, or community.
This is about liberation. This is about saying:
“I have the right to take up space—with my boundaries, my needs, my no, and my joy.”
🌿 12 Womanist-Centered Affirmations on Consent, Boundaries & Truth
My truth does not require your permission to be real.
I am not here to manage your comfort at the cost of my own safety.
When I say no, I honor the sacred boundaries of my body and spirit.
I will not explain away my intuition—she is ancient and wise.
Coercion is not love. Pressure is not care. Silence is not consent.
I will not shrink to fit into someone else’s idea of love, loyalty, or submission.
My body belongs to me. My peace belongs to me. My voice belongs to me.
I will not choose softness when someone brings me violence in disguise.
I can walk away without guilt. My leaving is sacred. My refusal is divine.
I do not exist to be palatable, passive, or easy to manipulate.
I honor the girl I was—the one who needed protection but was taught to people please.
I am allowed to be whole. Loud. Loved. Boundaried. And free.
