When you live with someone who is psychologically abusive, it’s just not possible to feel well or to be at your best because you’re at very high risk for a multitude of health issues, including post-traumatic stress disorder.

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The extraordinary and deeply gifted Queen Latifah has always been intentional about protecting her private life. That boundary deserves respect.

And still, years ago, she chose to share something sacred: that she is a Survivor of sexual violence in childhood.

For many Survivors, moments like this matter more than people realize. Seeing someone who has built joy, artistry, strength, and a full life after harm can quietly steady the heart. It can soften the loneliness. It can remind someone, in the middle of their own long night, that survival is real and wholeness is possible.

Sometimes it isn’t a speech that carries us forward.

Sometimes it’s simply a light.

A small, honest light that says: you are not alone, and your life is allowed to be more than what happened to you.

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• “When I was around 18, I looked in the mirror and said, ‘You’re either going to love yourself or hate yourself.’ And I decided to love myself. That changed a lot of things.” 

Queen Latifah

 

 

• You just have to connect with people who believe in your vision and who will work with you and advance your cause.

Queen Latifah

 

• No one ever got ahead by going through the motions. You have to constantly be improving yourself. Make your life the masterpiece you want it to be.

Queen Latifah

 

 

 

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• “I am a strong woman with or without this other person, with or without this job, and with or without these tight pants.” 

Queen Latifah

 

 

• The reality is, I like imperfection. You take away from the world when you’re not yourself. Whatever is unique and special about you was designed by God. And when you try to be someone else, we don’t get you. Who knows what you would have contributed to the world had you just been yourself, if you had just celebrated who you are and just walked boldly?” 

 

Queen Latifah

 

 

• Fear can be good when you’re walking past an alley at night or when you need to check the locks on your doors before you go to bed, but it’s not good when you have a goal and you’re fearful of obstacles. We often get trapped by our fears, but anyone who has had success has failed before.

Queen Latifah

 

 

• Let your inner queen’s voice come through loud and clear. Be strong, be authentic, be you, and you’ll do her proud.

Queen Latifah

 

 

• I really don’t know how to be anyone else, and whenever I try to be anyone else, I fail miserably. Or I disappoint myself. It doesn’t build my self-esteem, and it doesn’t help me grow me at all.

Queen Latifah

 

 

• Sometimes I pray when I really feel like I need God to help me with something, and sometimes we just have conversations. We just kick it.

Queen Latifah

 

Thank you, Queen!

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🌟 Resilience & Strength

1. “You may not control all the events that happen to you, but you can decide not to be reduced by them.” parade+2meQuilibrium+2Medium+2

2. “We may encounter many defeats but we must not be defeated.” Human Rights Careers+1Time+1

3. “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”Medium+1meQuilibrium+1

4. “My mission in life is not merely to survive, but to thrive; and to do so with some passion, some compassion, some humor, and some style.”A-Z Quotes

5. “Surviving is important. Thriving is elegant.” Goodreads+3Pinterest+3Burning For Success+3

6. “I’ve learned that even when I have pains, I don’t have to be one.”

7. “I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.”Medium+1meQuilibrium+1

8. “I’ve learned that making a ‘living’ is not the same thing as ‘making a life’.”

9. “I’ve learned that whenever I decide something with an open heart, I usually make the right decision

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🌿 For the Survivor’s Journey

1. “There is no greater agony than bearing an untold story inside you.”

2. “You alone are enough. You have nothing to prove to anybody.”

3. “Have enough courage to trust love one more time and always one more time.”

4. “If one is lucky, a solitary fantasy can totally transform one million realities.”

5. “Nothing will work unless you do.”

6. “We delight in the beauty of the butterfly, but rarely admit the changes it has gone through to achieve that beauty.”

7. “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time.”

8. “Ask for what you want and be prepared to get it!”

9. “You may shoot me with your words,
You may cut me with your eyes,
You may kill me with your hatefulness,
But still, like air, I’ll rise.”

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Libraries are often called the gateways to knowledge. But have you ever wondered who decides how books get organized? For over a century, most libraries have used the Dewey Decimal System (DDS). It works, but for a long time, it wasn’t fair—or inclusive.

That’s where Dorothy Porter stepped in. A trailblazing Black librarian, she didn’t just shelve books—she reshaped how knowledge itself gets classified.

Who Was Dorothy Porter?

Dorothy Porter was born into a world stacked against her. Opportunities for Black women in the early 1900s were scarce, but she pushed through, excelling in library science.

In 1930, she became the librarian at Howard University, where she quickly spotted a huge problem: the Dewey Decimal System basically shoved all books about Black life and history into a few narrow categories like slavery or colonization.

That meant works by Black authors weren’t easy to find and were often dismissed as “less important.” Dorothy Porter refused to let that stand.

How She Changed the Game

Instead of sticking with Dewey’s biased setup, Porter designed a new way:

• Reclassified Black Literature
  She grouped books by genre and author instead of shoving everything under “slavery.” That meant readers could finally see Black contributions in literature, history, science, and more.
• Balanced Out Religion
  Christianity had been given pages of space in Dewey’s system, while all other religions were lumped together. Porter pushed for a more balanced approach.
• Updated Subject Headings
  She got rid of offensive, outdated labels in catalogs and replaced them with respectful, accurate language.
• Made Libraries More Welcoming
  Beyond classification, Porter championed diverse collections so readers of all backgrounds could actually find themselves in the library.

Building a Legacy

Her work helped establish Howard’s Moorland-Spingarn Research Center, now one of the world’s most important collections of Black history and culture.

Porter didn’t just reorganize books—she reimagined how knowledge should be valued and accessed.

Why It Still Matters

Dorothy Porter showed that libraries aren’t just places to borrow books. They shape how we understand the world.

Without fair classification, whole cultures can get erased.

Thanks to her, today’s libraries are far more inclusive.

She sparked conversations about bias in systems—conversations that continue today.

Even though the Dewey Decimal System is still being updated (and some libraries are moving away from it altogether), her influence is undeniable.

✨ Dorothy Porter’s story reminds us: challenging the system can open doors for generations to come.

Legacy

Dorothy Porter’s name may not be widely known, but her work speaks volumes. As we continue striving for inclusivity in education, literature, and beyond, her legacy serves as a powerful reminder that who organizes knowledge matters just as much as the knowledge itself.

Next time you visit a library, take a moment to appreciate the system that helps you find the books you need—and remember the unsung heroes like Dorothy Parker who fought to make it better for everyone.

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